Make Sleep Sexy On Valentine's Day

Learn how you can turn bedroom romance into sweet dreams

Valentine’s Day is a special night for you and your loved one. Ladies, we are gifted with heart-shaped boxes of chocolate, roses, and cards, but what about the gift of sleep? I don’t know about you, but as a parent, sometimes there is nothing sexier than being able to get a good night of sleep. I’m going to offer you some tips on how romance in the bedroom could lead to blissful sweet dreams.

  Clear the Distractions: Your bedroom should be a non-tech zone. Get rid of your televisions, computers, and phones. The blue led light from these screens prevents our natural sleep hormone, melatonin, to be released. It stimulates our brains and turns the sleep switch off. Distract yourself with your loved one. Not Facebook.

  Establish a Regular Bedtime Routine: Just like we implement a consistent calming routine for our little one, mom and dad should practice one, as well. On that special night, include a couple’s massage or relax in a warm bath surrounded by candles, and build an iPod playlist of calming romantic music. 

  The Power of the Big O: An orgasm could be the best sleep aid. This night of love can produce some great sex and the endorphins released during sex can have a calming effect, which could equal a great night of sleep. Looking to sleep through the night? Hit the sheets with your loved one first.

  Set the Mood: Turning off the lights or keeping the room dimly lit not only produces a romantic ambience, but also helps cue the brain to release melatonin. Darker is always better. Of course when we think sexy sleep, we may automatically think silk sheets, but that can get pricey.  We want to keep a cool environment, and natural fibers, like cotton, are affordable and the most breathable, keeping you both cool and dry. Finish off your love nest with a romantic white noise, like the ocean, that will whisk you into a restorative sleep. And adding the scent of lavender or chamomile can aid in that dreamy slumber.

  Arrange an Overnight for the Kids: This is the night to plan a sleepover at Grandma’s and Grandpa’s or a close friend or relative for the kiddies. Parents need to reconnect and they need to make sure they have an uninterrupted night to do so. They also need to catch up on some of that sleep debt. You’ll have a sound sleep and your kids will have a fun getaway. This can only aid in helping your entire family become both a well-rested and happy one.

If you struggle with sleep issues, these sure-fire sleep tips can be used year round. Just because it’s not February 14th doesn’t mean you can’t set yourself up for the best sleep possible. Your partner will thank you for it, as well.

Whether you embrace the romance of or refuse to partake in forced declarations of love, our Valentine’s Day page is filled with articles, crafts, activities, and food to fit your mood.


Alanna McGinn is the mother of three (1 + twins!), Founder and Senior Sleep Consultant of Good Night Sleep Site, and Representative and Director for the International Association of Child Sleep Consultants (IACSC).  When she’s not on route to the bus stop or tripping over fire trucks and tea sets, she’s working with families to overcome their sleep challenges and helping them sleep better.  Find Alanna at and on Twitter @GNSleepSite.