If you've ever struggled with infertility, or had miscarriages, you've probably been at that fork in the road where you had to make a decision: to keep it to yourself or to talk about it. The choice of sharing is often the road less travelled, and many people keep their stories close to their hearts - which is why it is so important and powerful when articles about miscarriage are shared.
Hola! It's me again a little off my usual writing topic of relationships.The YMC group was asked to share our go-to, under-30-minute meal, and I shared my Tangy Tomato Pantry Pasta recipe that can be done in under 10 minutes. Our next challenge? To share our favourite breakfasts. For me, it is definitely Huevos Rancheros, "ranch-style eggs," a traditional Mexican mid-morning meal popular on rural farms.
Have you ever experienced that caught-off-guard, hit-by-a-bus, all-consuming anxious moment? It is common to most of us. That feeling of sudden worry about an unrelated issue can leave you unable to think about anything else. Perhaps an earlier issue you thought you got a grip of has returned, or a new fear has cropped up. Your heart sinks and you slip into the nauseous world of anxious thoughts and feelings.
The bloggers at Yummy Mummy Club were given a challenge to submit a quick, under 30 minute, dinner recipe. Dinner in 30? I say, let's do it in 10!
I normally stick to writing about relationships as the in-house blogger on all things relational, but I find rapport is better when people aren't hungry or hangry, for that matter, so feeding people is still on point.
Afraid of what attending therapy says about you and your marriage? Many people won't even discuss that they are attending counselling . . . Marriage Confidential: Off the Record, On the QT, and Very Hush Hush. There is a stigma attached to attending therapy, for some weakness is assumed. This is far from the truth.
No surprise here, studies show that social connection directly impacts our sense of life satisfaction. We are social beings and we need to connect with others. In Mazlow's Hierarchy of Needs, only survival and safety superseded our need for relationships.
Heading to the Blissdom Canada conference this year? Wondering how it will go? If you will make connections? What to wear? You might be experiencing the dreaded conference anxiety—an understandable reaction to not only a new experience, but to the idea of putting yourself out there!
Marriage is not easy. There are times when you argue too much, fail to connect, and have little in common. In these times, you might find yourself having some of your needs met by people other than your partner. This is fine, even healthy. A good friend, your sounding board; a relative, your problem solver. You may also find yourself connecting at some point with someone with whom romantic feelings have potential. This is where to draw the line.
People rarely set out to have an affair, and yet they are common. Janis Abrahms Spring, author of After the Affair, says that infidelity now affects 37% of couples. Often, such opportunities present when people are not feeling strong in themselves or their marriage. When the marriage is weak, obligations to spouses are not strongly felt, so not having an affair because of the marriage isn't a big enough draw. As a therapist, I have seen this many times with clients who feel they have fallen out of love with their partner.
Favouritism, comically confessed as our children take turns being the most lovely or least naughty in our homes. Bloggers, like Canadian Buzz Bishop, who have acknowledged favourites among their children have been criticized, challenged, and even called abusive. Yet others are relating. Favouritism isn't necessarily static. It can be something that changes in a minute or a month.
"I was probably more scared of my high school exams than I was of the Oscars. At the time you think it's everything and if you don't do well, your life's over. Opportunities are gone. So the more you do it, the less the fear is present.”
The only constant is change. Life guarantees transitions. Often these transitions mean changes in your social group. There are times of in between with friendships, ones of substance and those more superficial, times when you have established close friendships and other times when you feel surrounded by acquaintances. It can feel like you don't have friends when your loved ones aren't in close proximity or when just making contact is difficult with family life.
As a therapist, I always enjoy seeing Hollywood's portrayal of the therapy session. Some therapists are relatable and others are more like counsellor caricatures—simply entertainment. When watching therapists on the screen, one can quickly establish who they would and wouldn't want to be working with.