Kelly Flannigan Bos: The Relationship Rescuer

When You Are Too Tired for Date Night | YummyMummyClub.ca

Date night... important, enjoyable and so hard to schedule with those ever multiplying demands of work parenting and more. One of the first things to go under the weight of it all is quality time in our primary relationship and we simply hope it will hang on for a less chaotic time in our life.

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Feb
11
2016
Are you a dolphin and he a tiger? When your parenting styles don't match up, it can be stressful. But you can still work as a team. Here's how. | YummyMummyClub.ca

Lately there has been more popularity in using animal metaphors to describe the modern day parenting styles. Tiger parents are known to be the ones in control, like helicopter parents, and are often keen for their child's success. Dolphin parents want to nurture and guide their children with a nice balance of expectations and some flexibility. You might see yourself in one or more of these categories, depending on the situation, your comfort level, culture and how you were raised. 

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Jan
24
2016

Holding it Together When Your World is Falling Apart

How to Manage Your Too-Tired, Stressed Out, Hair-Trigger Feelings

How to manage your too-tired, stressed out, hair-trigger feelings and improve your self-control | Health | YummyMummyClub.ca

Self-control helps us lead healthy and productive lives, but is often the first to go under the weight of mounting pressures. As parents it is even more important for us to model self-control for our kids - our children are among a generation where self-regulation is becoming a real problem.

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Dec
21
2015

These Potty Training Signs Aren't Always Obvious

Are you Missing These "Ready-to-Roll" Cues from Your Toddler?

These Potty Training Signs Aren't Always Obvious

As someone who makes a living managing family dynamics, I can tell you the task of potty training is often met with one of three reactions by parents:

1. Dismay...when your toddler is ready and you simply aren't. (Can't this wait until after your siblings are finished school in June?!)

2. Relief...you've been ready but your toddler continued to ignore the potty and all attempts up until now. (FINALLY! I have been waiting (im)patiently for this day!)

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Nov
11
2015

We Need to Stop the Insanity of Competitive Parents

Protecting your kid's self esteem in sports and the performing arts

 How to Stop the Insanity of Competitive Parents - Protecting your kid's self esteem in sports and the performing arts | Fashion | Modeling | Acting | YummyMummyClub.ca

You know that scene where the mom or dad is yelling at the coach, staring down the competition, or screaming at their own child? It is a train wreck of parenting, and sadly for many, considered entertainment at its finest.

When it's on TV, you can switch the channel. But what do you do when the "dance mom" comes to life, and worse, into your life?

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Sep
15
2015

Do You Know Your Partner's Passwords?

The Locked and Loaded Issues of Secrecy

I understand there are always exceptions, but when a partner is upset that the other is not sharing the password for a electronic device, my therapist spidey-senses start tingling. This is because secretive behaviour with phones and/or computers have often revealed, at least in my experience, to be tied to things like affairs, addiction, financial deception, or secret families in Michigan.

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Sep
09
2015
Blissdom conference

Love, marriage, baby, the baby carriage... it was great, really great, wonderfully great, but... I got a little lost in it for awhile. Have you ever felt a little out of touch with your pre-kid self? I certainly was. I had returned to work on a part time basis as a psychotherapist and had even started writing for a website. I loved it. But that was pretty much it for my social media foray. I wasn't in demand, didn't have a large network, was not in any loops, and not creating much of an online presence.

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Jul
22
2015
activities that reduce stress in adults

No matter if you're 8 or 88, it's always a good time to enjoy some mindful activities that put you "in the moment" and take stress out of mind. Here are 8 great mindful activities to get you started on your quest for Zen (or just a half hour of peace and quiet!). 

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Jun
30
2015

Are You & Your Partner Close Enough?

Your problem may actually be that you're too close.

Are You & Your Partner Close Enough?
Couples often come to my office to discuss the lack of connection, stating their relationships are disjointed or not close enough. Disconnected might be how they feel, but often the opposite might be true. They aren't too far apart - they're too close!
 
The problematic “too close” looks like this: couples sharing their anxiety, stress, purpose, or validation.

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Jun
11
2015

The Joy of Ditching Grudges

Get Rid of Hate; Make Room for Joy

Let go of grudges

The word hate is thrown around loosely. Our children hate pickles or baths. We hate our dishwashers, our jobs... and although hate may be a strong word, offense and resentment is something we all relate to. We walk around with things we're offended by somewhere beneath the surface, and some of these resentments are justifiable. However, harbouring grudges, offenses, and hate is unhealthy and unhelpful.

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Apr
13
2015

How to Stop Being the Control Freak in Your Marriage

Your Partner is Your Partner - Not Your Employee.

Micromanagement of your spouse will make nobody happy. Here's how to relax the grip on the reins.

Question: I have a capable and responsible husband, but I have a hard time not micro-managing him when it comes to our children and family life. How do I both give up some control and yet still maintain some?

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Mar
18
2015

Parenting Together After Your Divorce

Keeping it Together When You're Now Apart

The end of a relationship is complex, difficult, and confusing. When a relationship ends and there are children, this complexity multiplies. It might feel impossible to work with your ex, especially when they appear to work against healthy plans. As one friend expressed, "Shouldn't they, of all people in the world, want the best for our children and act accordingly?"

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Mar
03
2015

Searching for Happiness? Chase This!

Important Lessons about Happiness that aren't too Late to Learn

Inner freedom. It's nothing I've mastered, but rather a lesson that lately I can't ignore. Embracing this lesson will create space for peace and happiness and this is available to you.

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Feb
26
2015

What to Do When "Getting Pregnant" Just Isn't Happening

Important Conversations to Have with Your Partner

What to Do When "Getting Pregnant" Just Isn't Happening

When you are ready to have a baby, the "getting pregnant" part it isn't always easy. Infertility is a common struggle for many couples, and as someone who struggled with fertility and counselled many who  had challenges becoming parents, I know how hard it can be. The waiting, longing, disappointment, as well as the "why us?" can take its toll. You might wonder if it's meant to be when an anticipated pregnancy does not happen as planned.

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Feb
13
2015
Sex is important in your relationship. Often after the "honeymoon" phase of the relationship ends there are times of plenty and times of drought due to life's demands and needs. Too often sex is the first to be sacrificed in a busy schedule, yet it is important in the maintenance and building of your marriage because it provides connection through closeness and vulnerability, and gives an opportunity for a healthy release of emotions, and it helps us relax. We parents could use these benefits couldn't we?

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Feb
12
2015

If the Amazon ship has sailed (without an order from you that is,) and you can't face the quadrupled price for roses or a crowded restaurant, here are some things you can do to celebrate and invest in your relationship on Valentine's Day. Share this with your spouse, the new frazzled mom-friend desperate for ideas, or the procrastinator in your life for this last minute Valentine's Day idea list complete with their relationship building reasons. This list does not include crazy line-ups or reservations! Since time is of the essence, here you go:

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Jan
31
2015

Keeping Your Kids Grounded in a Money-Obsessed World

Ask Kelly: How Do I Balance Conflicting Messages about Money at Home?

Have you ever wanted advice from a professional therapist but couldn't book a whole hour? The Relationship Rescuer is available to you!

Our first question for this new monthly advice section deals with money, values, differences, and dealing with Grandparents.

Dear Kelly,

My husband's wealthy family - who we see regularly - is obsessed with money. They talk often about money and judge people by how much they make. How do I minimize this money focus with my kids?

-Natalie

Hi Natalie,

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Jan
31
2015

Action Plan for Moms: How to Cope When You're Sick

Sometimes the last woman standing needs to lie down

It's cold and flu season, and as children get colds, pink eye, ear aches, lice and stomach viruses moms keep going, even if they're the ones sneezing, or nauseous.

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Jan
20
2015

Want a Happy Marriage? Cheap Out on the Wedding

Why Spending a Bundle Doesn't Mean You'll Live Happily Ever After

A study by Emory University recently showed a correlation between big weddings and a shorter marriage. In the study a $20,000+ wedding was 3.5 more times as likely to end in divorce. This was also found to be true of engagement rings, wherein the higher the price of the ring, the lower the marital success. Many of the YMC contributors agreed with having a thriftier wedding.

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Dec
31
2014

Need a Fresh New Year's Resolution? Experts Share Theirs

Some great ideas from parenting, relationship and health authors, educators and entertainers

Annual naval gazing and promises to "do it all differently" at New Year's has been happening for a long time. When the Emperor Julius Cesar wanted to make his mark, he consulted astronomers and mathematicians and gave props to his Greek God with two faced Janus, and the New Year as January 1st was born.

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