To all the single Mothers out there: Just because you've lost your stick shift doesn't mean you've lost your sex drive!

The sexy diva is still in there but she may be too tired to think about anything else but sleep. Before your head hits the pillow remember this: If you don't use it, you will lose it! So do yourself a favour and rev up your own engine with an adult sex toy or let your fingers do the walking. Whichever method you choose to achieve an orgasm it will do wonders for your health, complexion and overall well being - not to mention helping you sleep better.

But what if you don't want to fly solo every night? It's hard enough finding your groove when you're single again, let alone getting it back with someone else. Given a choice between dating and getting a root canal, the drill doesn't sound so bad.

Dating is like shopping - buyer beware! A new lover can be a lot like that "must have" outfit. He may look gorgeous and sexy and fit you like a glove. But when you wake up beside him and the effect of the scotch has evaporated leaving your mind alert, you may be wondering "what was I thinking"? And now, he's like that final sale no refunds, exchanges only.

So where does a single Mother go to look for a playmate? There are a number of dating services out there from speed dating to mingling parties to dinner dates with nine other single strangers all hoping to find someone special. Or you can always count on your friends or colleagues to set you up with the perfect man.

If you decide to go on a first date make it a lunch date - you don't have to get a babysitter to watch your kids and it's less romantic. No pressure of the goodnight kiss.

But what if he asks you out for dinner? Accept his invitation, find a babysitter and don't lie to your kids. Tell them you're going out on a date. If you want your kids to meet him, ask him to pick you up. But have cash on hand for a cab just in case he's a psycho date from hell (and he looked oh so delicious in a pair of jeans). However, if you're not ready for that step yet, just meet him at the restaurant.

During dinner he reaches for your hand and his touch sends lightning bolts through you (it can happen). You're feeling flushed, hot and sweaty (a hot flash?!) and you need him badly but you can't go to a hotel because you're paying the babysitter by the hour until 11 pm. So what is a horny single Mother to do? You can take him home but how will you explain him to your sitter? And what if your kids get up?

Take my advice and have him sneak in through the back door as your babysitter is walking out the front. Check on the kids to make sure they are sound asleep and tiptoe into your bedroom (don't forget to lock the door!). With time being of the essence| forget the slow move to the bed. Walk backwards quickly, kissing and ripping each other's clothes off - multi-tasking in action.

Indulge in a bit of foreplay but don't linger too long then rock each other's worlds - but do it quietly (if you must yell, press your mouth into his shoulder and scream). And pray that your bedsprings don't squeak! When you've ridden the wave to shore, cuddle for a while but don't fall asleep! Do you want to try explaining him to your kids in the morning?

And ladies, while on this dating journey always carry a few condoms in your handbag and don't forget to take your sense of humour with you.


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