Lisa Thornbury: Party Mummy

Apr
27
2015

Beware of Becoming the "B-Word"

How to Give Your Mom The Gift She REALLY Wants

My mother has been calling me the B-word lately. Sometimes behind my back. Sometimes to my face.  But it's okay. I know it's only because she misses me.  
 
Besides, she is absolutely right.  I am the B-word. I am Busy. Crazy, crazy BUSY!
 
Picture me spinning frantically in circles, arms outstretched, face to the sky, gasping for breath, a single tear rolling down my cheek—THAT level of busy. 
 
My situation isn't extraordinary of course—we're all busy working, raising our families, trying to have a life amidst the noise. It's easy to get so caught up in it all that we're blind to what's really important.  But then something happens that forces our eyes open.  Recently my family lost two very special people.  One suddenly. One over time. Both heart wrenching. Suddenly the business of being busy seemed pointless and selfish and just plain stupid. I know I need to spend quality time with family now, while I still have the privilege. 
 
"You're so busy. I never see you. I miss you" — words from a mother to her absent daughter.  Despite living only minutes apart, we don't spend nearly enough time together. So this Mother's Day, I'm giving my mum the gift she really wants. Sorry mama, no refunds or exchanges. My gift to my mom this year is time spent together doing something we both enjoy—epic or ordinary—it doesn't really matter, just as long as we do it together. 
 
Here are some things my mum and I have on our list of enjoyable ways to spend time together:
 
 Take thee to the Cineplex for a mid-week matinee. Taking the afternoon off to sneak to a show with my mum is special. Bonus: Kids are in school so the theatre is nice and quiet (minus the sound of my mom chewing her popcorn). Bonus: Mom probably won't want to see Paul Blart, Mall Cop 2.
 
 Morning coffee date in my parent's back yard. Reading the paper, listening to the birds sing. Perfectly ordinary, but extraordinarily perfect. Swing by  Starbucks for coffee and some treats. Easy peasy, lemon squeezey.
 
 Make-overs! Seek out a professional (I love the Mac counter) or take turns trying out make-up looks on each other at a store like Sephora. When you can't stop laughing because you both look like circus clown rejects, it's time for lunch. And no washing first; that's part of the fun. Public embarrasement is where it's at this year.
 
 Grab a Timmies and take a walk together down by the lake. Sipping and chatting and moving and breathing the same air... it's a beautiful thing. Take a camera and capture the two of you in a relaxed environment with natural light.
 
 A bike ride (flat surface only please) and a picnic. 
 
 Shopping and a ladies' lunch. Note: try on clothes first, THEN have your fill at the all-you-can-eat sushi bar. Trust me on this. Most bigger malls will have a great selection of restaurants, so maybe head to the closest mega-mall for a mega-lunch. Or, take a "trip around the world" by visiting all the food court vendors.
 
 Looking for an adventurous way to spend together? Find a "Gift Experience" for you and your mum to share. Samba Days has dozens of cool experiences like ziplining, tandem sky diving, a stunt driving lesson, caving, a helicopter or small plane flight lesson,  a "Zip, Sip & Stay Adventure" (I have this one ear marked for my husband and I for our anniversary) and of course lots of options for relaxing and getting away together. 
 
 Take an afternoon to help your mum sort through her photo albums or maybe redo her closet. Not exactly a raucous good time, but throw in an order-in lunch and it's good, organized-helping-your-mum-out times. Karma, plus fun. Win/win.
 
 Explore your city. Choose an attraction in your own town that you've both never visited and go together. Take lots of ridiculous selfies and post them so we can see.
 
 Sign up for a cooking class and take it together. Maybe vegan cooking or Indian cuisine? Let mom take leftovers home and you've saved her a night of cooking at home, too. Look at you; you're a giver.
 
Every minute together, no matter how you choose to spent it, matters. xo 

What are some activities you enjoy doing with your mum (or any special lady in your life)?