If I could trade in the amount of times someone’s told me I have the “perfect job” for cash, I’d be on my third consecutive trip to Disney right now (yeah, that’s how’d spend my cash, don’t judge me). And the thing is, they aren’t wrong. I get to stay home with my daughter. I don’t have to pay for daycare. I can wear my pyjamas all day, book appointments between 9:00 and 5:00 on weekdays, and all the other popular cliché’s about working from home. (Do you want to kill me yet?)
But sometimes this “dream job” can really be a nightmare. And I don’t mean that I wish I went to work everyday instead, but there are days when I am drowning in so much parental guilt I could sit in a bathtub with a pound of chocolate and cry my face off for hours … and then feel guilty about that, too. And don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. As I sit here writing, my daughter’s lovingly piling dishes of plastic food and “coffee” on my desk for me, and pampering me with play make-up — I mean, I might eat her it’s so cute.
I’ve spent countless hours working at my computer or on my iPad as she nurses, or sleeps, or plays on my lap, and those are hours I realize most working parents would give anything for. But, that doesn’t erase the challenges.
She’s also, at various times, turned off my computer (x infinity), left a scavenger hunt of half-eaten freezies around my house, emptied my entire bookshelf, stickered and coloured our white coffee table, stickered the cat, and stole a pen off my desk and coloured a picture on my boob while she breastfed (my personal fav).
So, while the obvious rewards of working from home are all true, there’s also a few things you should consider if you’re thinking about going down this road:
Have I lost my cool a few too many times to count? Definitely. Is my house a disaster most of the time? Yes, a thousand times yes. Has my daughter had more screen time daily than most two-year-olds? Probably.
But we’ve also, had wonderful adventures, afternoon naps, ice cream dates, and rainy-day movie marathons, and spent every beautiful day of her two-and-a-half years of life together, and I wouldn’t trade that for a lifetime of Disney trips.