Keeping an Erection During Oral Sex

Losing an erection is more common that you'd think

Question: The last time I was getting oral sex I lost my erection and now it happens often. Why does this happen and what can I do to stop it?

This can be a very common experience. As rapidly as blood engorges your penis to make it erect, the blood can just as quickly drain away leaving you limp. In fact, many men also lose their erections during sexual intercourse.

You see your brain—not your penis—is actually your primary sex organ; so when you’re stressed or worried your arousal level will decrease. There are a number of reasons why this happens.

For example, it can be difficult to keep an erection if you’re thinking: “Is it big enough?”, “What if I ejaculate too quickly?” or worse, “What if I can’t ejaculate?”

And if you do lose your erection once—like you have during oral sex—you start to worry that it’s going to happen again. Creating a nasty flaccid cycle.

Although, pharmaceutical companies would love you to pop a pill to solve your limp ways, this is usually not necessary.

When you are receiving oral sex, try to concentrate on the wonderful feelings and sensations. When you focus on the pleasure, you won’t lose that erection.

Great Sex Tip
Kegel exercises are not just for women. Men also need to exercise this muscle group to keep a strong erection throughout their life.

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Relationship and sexual health expert, Dr. Trina Read, is the founder of and Sensual Tastes Events. She is a mom of two boys, a best selling author, a go-to media expert, magazine columnist, spokeswoman and award winning international speaker.