Is it Weird to Have Never Had a Vaginal Orgasm?

Is there something wrong with me?

Question: I’ve never had an orgasm during intercourse. Is there something wrong with me?

Absolutely not!

Unfortunately, many women get their sex education from romance novels or media, and assume that every woman will: “Immediately explode with pleasure as his rock-hard python enters her.”

Truth is, contrary to pop-culture belief, not all women can have a vaginal and g-spot orgasm. This is due to her genetics and not because she’s uptight and/ or doing something wrong during sex.

Some women will consistently have a vaginal orgasm with intercourse; others will sometimes have a vaginal orgasm; and some will never. Chances are, if you cannot have a vaginal orgasm, you probably won’t be able to have a g-spot orgasm either.

Orgasm problems arise when there’s a lot of pressure put on a gal—from herself or her partner—to have a vaginal or g-spot orgasm. Even if she is able, with that stress hanging over her bed, it’s most likely never going to happen. It’s only when she’s completely relaxed, aroused, and into the sex that it can occur.

The good news is every woman can have a clitoral orgasm—which are pretty wonderful creatures in and of themselves.

As you can see, every woman’s orgasm experience is different, and therefore how you experience orgasm is very normal.

Great Sex tip: Some women have multiple orgasms while others will have one huge explosion.


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Relationship and sexual health expert, Dr. Trina Read, is the founder of and Sensual Tastes Events. She is a mom of two boys, a best selling author, a go-to media expert, magazine columnist, spokeswoman and award winning international speaker.