Choosing The Right School For Your Child

How To Make Sure It's The Right Fit

by: Our Kids

If you’re like many parents, trying to choose which school is right for your child can be one of the biggest challenges you face in deciding the direction of their education and which path will be most successful.

There are certainly plenty of options to consider, and sometimes just figuring out where to start can be the most frustrating part of it all.

Families often spend more time than they need to, judging schools solely by their rankings; however, it’s advised that parents begin by understanding their children, their needs, and what environment might foster their learning style best.

For Barbi Benjamin Levitt and Michael Levitt, the decision to move their daughter out of the Hebrew school they had attended since nursery and into different private schools was an emotional process. Yet looking back, the parents say that with the right help and careful research, they were able to find a school that fit perfectly with their daughter’s academic, social, and emotional needs.  

The following step-by-step guide can help you rank your choices and ensure that your child gets into the school that’s right for them:

1.  Understand Your Child

The first step in choosing the right school is to determine what type of student your child is and what environment she will most likely succeed in.

"Before thinking about the features of any particular school, begin by looking at your child's needs, strengths, and overall personality," explains educational consultant Judy Winberg.

For the Levitt family, this meant first recognizing that their daughter, Jessica, wasn't doing well in her current environment. "Just after Christmas, in Jessica's Grade Two year, the troubles she was having came to a head," Barbi recalls. "Each student was told to present a book to the class, and while the other kids were reading at level four or five, Jessica was still at level one. She felt embarrassed and came home crying."

To better understand their daughter and her learning needs, the Levitt family turned to an educational psychologist for help. "If you're looking for a psychologist to provide an evaluation or aren't sure if this is what your child needs, consider asking your pediatrician for help," advises Elaine Danson, educational consultant and former principal of Montcrest School in Toronto.

The psychological assessment provided the Levitts with an unbiased look at their daughter's strengths, weaknesses, and abilities. "I can still remember the psychologist telling us that Jessica needed to be in a different schoolnow!" Barbi says. "She had an unidentifiable learning disability and she wasn't absorbing information."

This news was hard for the Levitt family to digest. They had assumed that their children would go to Hebrew school for the rest of their elementary years, and had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that their daughter would have to start over in a new school.

TIP: Just because parents went to a particular school or type of school, doesn't mean it's right for their children. Always consider the specific needs of the child.

2.  Make a List

Armed with a better understanding of your child, the next step is to evaluate both the child's needs and the needs of your family.

"I recommend that parents start by making a list," Winberg says. "Ask yourself, 'What's most important to us?' and write those things down." Keep that list on hand to help you stay focused throughout the search process, in order to avoid overlooking something.

Other factors parents tend to consider include the child's interests and talents and what co-curricular activities are available to address the valuesreligious or otherwiseof the school and how they mesh with the family's values, and the educational tools (e.g., technology) that are used in the classroom.

"Think about what's working in your child's current school and what's not working," Danson says. "Is there anything the child wishes he could do in school but hasn't been able to?"

TIP: It's not selfish to consider your own needs during this process. This can include how far you're willing to drive to get your child to school each day.

3.  Begin Evaluating Schools

Now it's time to look at specific schools to see what they have to offer. Many parents begin by visiting school fairs, such as Our Kids Media's popular Private School Expos in the fall, and using school guides and websites, which provide an overview of what's available and accessible to them.

Other forms of research often include speaking with fellow parents. But Winberg advises that what other parents say about a school should not necessarily be one of your deciding factors. "Just because one child had a positive or negative experience, does not mean your childa totally different human beingwill have the same experience."

Winberg also encourages parents to think beyond school rankings, such as those conducted by the Fraser Institute. "Parents will often say to me, 'But that school didn't have a good rating,' and what I ask them is, 'What else do you know about the school?'" In isolation, she says, these ratings are not particularly useful.

TIP: Most schools have comprehensive websites, which are often good places to search for information. These can be accessed directly from school profiles on

4.  Visit Potential Schools

Once you've come up with a short list of schools, you're ready to begin touring. The admissions department is typically your point of contact at this stage. Most schools offer tours of some sort to help get families better acquainted with their programs and environment.

"The school visit is the chance to establish what the parent and student's wishes and expectations are of the school, and what the school's expectations are of the students," says Cathy Lee, director of admissions at Bodwell High School in North Vancouver, B.C. "Then we look for a match."

Carefully observe the students, teachers, and parents at the school during your visit, Winberg suggests. "When you're inside the school, look into the classrooms to see if the kids look engaged. Are they talking with one another or is the teacher sitting behind the desk while the kids work?" Winberg says. "Check out the culture of the parking lot. What are the other parents like? Do they seem open and welcoming? Is this a community you can imagine being part of?"

Other questions to ask during this time, according to Danson, include what type of parent-teacher communication exists at the school, what qualifications the teachers have (especially if your child has special needs), how financially stable the school is, and whether the administration has changed hands a number of times or if there has been consistent leadership at the school.

This is your chance to ask questions, so don't be shy. After all, your child will be spending five days a week here, so you want to be sure you understand the philosophy and the policies before you make a choice.

"It really does come down to happiness," Winberg says. "If the child is happy, there's a much better chance that he or she will be successful, no matter what the curriculum is."

TIP: Make sure your child spends some time in each school you're considering, before you make a final decision.

5.  Involve Your Child in the Decision

The final decision ultimately comes down to both the parents and the child.

"In the end, parents need to listen to their kids and trust their own gut instincts," Winberg says. "Can you envision your child being successful at this school? Does it feel right? If so, go for it."

TIP: Try not to set yourself up to believe there is only one school for your child. Keep your options open.

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