As friends and associates enthusiastically talk up the neighborhood holiday gathering, or the annual office party, or the New Year’s Eve gala, do you feel an urge to run and hide? Do you find yourself fantasizing about evenings at home—alone—with a good book or a hot bath? Do you feel like a freak for not feeling merry about all the “fun” you’ll have getting dressed up and talking to people you don’t otherwise want to hang out with?
Then you might be an introvert--and, contrary to popular opinion, you are not alone. You are part of the quieter majority who are also miffed about the appeal of the party. Most of us prefer a few close friends to a room full of acquaintances. Most of us need to withdraw into solitude on a regular basis in order to reflect and refuel. And most of us are merrier when we have more square footage at our disposal (the standing-room-only bar is the opposite of merry for us).
So, this holiday season, don’t buy into the “more is merrier” assumption. The assumption is only true for some. Instead, define for yourself what is merrier. Or, better yet, define for yourself whether “merrier” is what you are going for—maybe “peaceful” or “meaningful” sound better to you.
And, if you think you have to keep the buzz going for your kids, think again. The majority of children are also likely to be introverted, and they’ll need their chill time too. When I was a little person, I retreated to my room when the holiday festivities got too festive (and still do!).
Instead of getting swept up in what “everyone else” seems to be doing, remember that more of us are actually wanting less—the ones wanting more are just louder. Then take a moment to consider what you value and enjoy, and how you can be present—which will be a present—for yourself and your kids.
Make this a yummy holiday season – not just for those you love, but also for YOU. Then you will truly be a yummy mummy.
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