I've just learned that one of my favourite young friends shares a birthday month with me. She'll be turning 21, whilst I'll be turning fifty-two. I've learned some valuable things about life, love and being female over the past half-century and especially since I was her age, and I thought if I passed some of the more important ones on to you, maybe it will save you younger women some precious time:
That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don't believe me? Ask your mother/auntie/grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was twenty. She'll say, "no." Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean?
If you don't have it yet, pretend you do. In every new situation, pretend you're not nervous, pretend you're not afraid. After a few times doing this, the pretend part disappears.
Go to the library and borrow ten different books on the subject. Skim through them all, find the ones that have the most vital information and study them. Then see number 2.
Remember the feeling of freedom. If you've already forgotten, do a cartwheel. You can so still do one. Savor that feeling. Wake up with it every day. You'll stay young until the day you die.
Because every time we glance at them, they remind us how much beauty there can be in the world.
Don't leave someone else completely in charge, whether it's your husband, partner, parents, or banker. Become financially savvy. Financial independence gives you the freedom to walk away from many bad situations. How do you know you're in bad situation? See number seven.
Before you know what it is, your stomach always does. Give yourself some time to ponder what it might be that's making your stomach hurt. Chances are you already do know, you just don't want to believe it, for some reason. You can ignore advice from your friends, even your own brain, but you can't ignore your stomach, because the stomach never lies. Oh, and by the way? - Drowning your stomach in alcohol won't make it stop telling you the truth, either.
If after you display your sincere compassion, they are still acting like an assh*le, walk away. If they follow you, call the police.
I don't care how dark your skin naturally is. Wear it. You'll remember me when you look in the mirror at age fifty. Always keep in mind that Your body is directly connected to your spirit. Look after your body. Exercise, floss and brush your teeth. Put nothing in your body that can permanently harm your spirit, including the wrong man.
He is not at all thinking about how fat your thighs look.