You CAN (and will) Survive Christmas After Divorce

Enjoy, Don't Stress

Are you spending too much time thinking about Christmases past? Wondering how you will get through this Christmas? Concerned that Christmas will never be the same for you and your children?

You are not alone.

The holidays are a stressful time for most, but separated or divorced parents seem to take it to another level.  

5 Things You Need To Know About Separation And The Holidays

Here are 5 tips that will help you survive the holidays:

  New traditions: Traditions are great. Old ones, however, tie you to the past. Creating new ones help everyone start to the think about the future in a positive way. Let your kids help create some new and fun traditions for your family.

  Be flexible: It doesn’t matter which day you celebrate onif the kids are with your ex on Christmas Day for the big dinner, look at celebrating with them on Christmas Eve or Boxing Day. Your kids won’t attach themselves to a specific day, they will just want to celebrate as much and as long as they can!

  Connect with friends and family: Don’t go through this alone. The holidays are a terrific excuse to hang out with othersinvite them to your place or celebrate at their place. Why sit at home alone moping when you can be around others that love you?

  Don’t make it about the presents: Make it about happiness and feelingswe know that there is less money to go around after divorce. Do what you can to buy presents and get creative. If there are less presents under the tree, try wrapping stocking stuffers in unusual ways, or have a scavenger hunt for their big present. It is the experience and feelings that your kids will remember, not the actual gift (unless it’s their first bikeevery adult seems to remember getting their first bike. Haha!).

  Keep it focused on the kids: In all likelihood, your kids want to spend time with all of their loved ones during the holidays. Now is not the time to be selfish and bitter about your ex's past actions.

Don’t be a Scrooge:

  Christmas Past: Keep those old memories of Christmas past in your heart. They can never be changed or recreated. Be thankful for what they were.

  Christmas Present: Follow the tips above to help you survive this Christmas.

  Christmas Future: Make new traditions and look forward to your kids being excited about them next Christmas. 

Julie Gill Q.Med

I am the Owner and Principal Mediator of Families First Mediation, 

I went through a terrible divorce, I worked hard to develop a career in the financial world, I have been the primary caregiver to both my kids and my parents and I’m now happily in a blended family situation. I have a lot of life experience – some great, some just great learning experiences.

Conflict happens...that is no surprise. How you choose to deal with it will make a difference as to how successful you are getting through it.

Through Families First Mediation Julie provides you with the opportunity to fairly, creatively and personally develop solutions that best meet YOUR requirements.

Julie helps people navigate issues related to Divorce, Elder Care Support, Sports Teams, Schools, Neighbourhood Disputes and Workplace Stress to name a few.

Julie will help you learn how to fight...FAIR.

Julie is a member of the Ontario Association for Family Mediation, Family Mediation Canada and a Qualifed Mediator with the ADR Institute of Ontario. Julie has training in Family Mediation, Conflict Resolution, Negotiation and Restorative Justice.