Tanya Enberg: Unexpected Mother


Dear Husband: You Are My Bicycle

because You don't need a special day to tell your partner this...

"Perhaps the feelings that we experience when we are in love represent a normal state. Being in love shows a person who he should  be." ~ Anton Chekhov

Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of the night and wonder where I’d be without you. There isn’t enough time, I think. Days sweep by in a dizzying flash and I worry that we’re never going to be able to fit it all in—all the moments and experiences I want to share with you. Does everybody feel like this? 

When I stop long enough to catch my breath, this is what I pause onthat I want to stretch our days out, to pull at them like Silly Putty until they won’t stretch anymore. I want to squeeze every sunshiny drop out of them.

But we get busy. We get tired. We fall into routine. We get overrun and rundown with to-do lists. Sometimes we’re too sleepy to make the most of our days. Sometimes this is how life goes. 

Through all of this, I never take for granted the spectacular magic of having found you, of falling in love with you, of being loved by you. Meeting you was one of the best moments of my life. Marrying you was the cherry on top. 

Our son turns two today. Can you believe that? Time, it just slipped by while we were living our lives. Our boy adores you more than trucks and cars and bunnies and books. He loves you more than all the treasures in his young, ever-expanding world. I fall more in love with the both of you every single day.

I had wanted to write a piece in time for Father’s Day, but I ran out of time and energy. The past few months have not been easy. My health has lagged—it was scary at times—and my spirit, where has my spirit been? The stress at times has felt insurmountable.  

Throughout it, I’ve leaned on youmy rock, my best friend. You’ve lifted me up when I couldn’t do it. A person shows the core of who they are during times of adversity. I am humbled and awed by the person you have proven to be. 

The sentiment goes that, "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle," and that may be true, but we do need fellow human beings. We require love and kindness and support and balance in order to grow. I’ve found that in you.

I don’t need a special day to tell you how wonderful you are. I need you to know this every day. When we’ve run short on time and the days have swept by us, I need you to take pause and know this. 

You, my darling man, are my bicycle.

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