Tanya Enberg: Unexpected Mother


Let's Bring Out the Best in Ourselves


We teach our kids to share. We tell them to say please and thank-you, to wait their turn. We tell them not to push, be rude or take toys from other kids.

We ask them to use their words, to greet others with kindness, not to judge or be cruel. We encourage them to smile and laugh, to generally be happy.

We tell them to dream big, think big, and believe in themselves. We say they can be anything they want to be. That the world is their oyster; the sky is the limit.

When we do these things and say these things, we give the best of ourselves; Our children bring our best sides out. 

Yet, for all of our grown-up wisdom, we don’t always practice what we preach.

Do we actually share our toys with others? Say please and thank you? Or maybe we boss others around, belittle them and treat folks we deem below us as second rate.

Do we push people to get by instead saying ‘excuse me?’ Shove fellow commuters to get onto buses and trains first, try to steal someone else’s spot in line, pretending not to see them? Do we cut drivers off in traffic? Swear, gesture, and grunt? 

Do we glare at those we believe have wronged us instead of speaking to them like adults? Read trashy magazines and slag people about their clothing choices? Mock passersby and gossip about others with our friends.

Are we remembering to smile, laugh and generally be happy?

Maybe we get caught up in the grind and forget what it’s like to dream big, think big and believe in our own selves.

Have we forgotten that the world is our oyster, that the sky is the limit.

Is it possible we have allowed our worlds to become too small? Too petty? Too angry? Too sad?

Are we remembering to try and bring out the best in ourselves, not just for our children, but also for our own health and happiness?

So I ask, are we truly remembering to practice what we preach? Perhaps we should get to work trying to be the people our children actually believe we are because man, those people would be pretty great, don't you think?