Take a minute to watch this video by Jimmel Kimmel Live that shows Celebrities Reading Mean Tweets sent to them.
Kudos to these celebrities who were able to poke fun at themselves but while funny, this video kinda points out exactly what is wrong with social media and the internet. People say mean things, leave mean comments, and basically say the things they would never say to a person's face, and not just to celebrities. It's happened to our editor-in-chief, Ali Martell, when she wrote about how she makes her children hold hands if they fight. It happened to me when I had an article posted on MSN and was left the comment that I should use my head for more than just holding hats.
In fact, I would bet my bottom dollar that if I went on to Twitter right now and asked people if someone has ever left a mean comment for them on a social media outlet, there would be more yeses than noes.
We need to remember, celebrity or not, there are real people behind computer screens. Real people with feelings.
Here's your simple life rule for today:
If you wouldn't look a person straight in the eye and say it to his face, don't write it.
Humans, for the most part, are a very egocentric group. Granted, it’s a Darwinian thing. Being self-centred has kept us alive for millions of years. When one has to outrun a sabre-tooth tiger you learn quite quickly to take care of yourself.
For the record, you don’t have to run faster than a sabre-tooth tiger, you only have to run faster than your slowest hunting partner.
Thankfully we no longer have to worry about our dinner turning on us but we’re still a pretty self-centred bunch. The thing is, while it’s all about us (preservation wise), we sometimes forget other people have shit going on too.
Crazy concept, right?
I’ve been seeing it more and more lately, where people jump to the wrong conclusion because they think it’s all about them.
Someone didn’t answer your email right away? What an asshole.
Meanwhile, the asshole in question just learned his aunt passed away. Or her three-year-old twins decided last week they want to party all night long and the whole family is now an experiment in sleep deprivation.
You sent a DM and it didn’t get a response. For the first hour you’re okay but then after hour two you start to get mad. Why is she shunning me? I can see her on Twitter! Why isn’t she responding? Well, fine! Whatever. I never liked her anyway.
In the meantime the shunner has no idea what’s going on because she isn’t shunning you, she simply stepped away from the computer to make dinner, answer the phone, throw in a load of laundry and spend time with the family. Chances are she hasn’t even checked her DMs.
You posted on Facebook about your amazing opportunity and only seven people liked it. I guess nobody cares.
Not at all. It’s just that at that very moment in time your other 120 friends probably have shit going on.
Because we all have shit going on.
The person who didn’t hold the door open for you? Rude, but maybe he just found out he’s going to lose his job.
The cashier you sighed at because she was slower than you’d like? She’s supporting her children on her own and works two jobs.
The friend you had a conversation with and she seemed distracted the whole time? It’s not because you’re not interesting, it’s because…
She has shit going on.
Here’s the thing…most times it’s not about you. There’s a whole interesting world out there and weirdly, it doesn’t revolve around one singular person. So the next time you’re upset because someone didn’t respond to you in the way you expected or in the timeline you have set out in your head, instead of jumping to the worst possible conclusion, take a step back and think of it from a different point of view.
Maybe they aren’t being mean or rude or excluding you.
Maybe they just have some shit going on.
And I bet if you took a moment to ask them about it, they’d really appreciate it.
This is the year I remember
To hand surf out my car window on a breezy summer day.
To wear warm clothes taken directly from the dryer.
It is not where I drink the coffee it is who I drink the coffee with.
Sometimes doing nothing is doing something.
This is the year I remember
I am a person who uses brands, I am not a brand.
Every person in my life is deserving of my full eye contact and attention when we are having a conversation.
People are more important than tech.
Dating doesn't stop when you get married.
Hearing is not the same thing as listening.
This is the year I remember
A drive-through parking spot should be celebrated.
A hug will always make things better.
To never walk by a swing without swinging on it.
There needs to be at least three impromptu water gun fights in every summer.
Dreams are meant to be shared.
This is the year I remember
There should never be even a moment's hesitation about eating a warm chocolate chip cookie fresh from the oven.
Songs are meant to be danced to no matter where you are.
Those little hands I hold will not always be little so hold them as often as I can.
Food is meant to be savoured.
Bubble wrap is a gift.
This is the year I remember
Bravery comes in many forms.
Dancing in the rain isn't just for children.
A pile of crisp autumn leaves is meant to be jumped in.
Every person has a story as unique as they are.
This is the year I remember
There is magic in every single day if we make the effort and choose to find it.
What will you remember this year?
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