Need a Fresh New Year's Resolution? Experts Share Theirs

Some great ideas from parenting, relationship and health authors, educators and entertainers

Need a Fresh New Year's Resolution? Experts Share Theirs

Annual naval gazing and promises to "do it all differently" at New Year's has been happening for a long time. When the Emperor Julius Cesar wanted to make his mark, he consulted astronomers and mathematicians and gave props to his Greek God with two faced Janus, and the New Year as January 1st was born. Interestingly, Janus's faces give him the ability to look back and look forward - so, out with the old and in with the new. 
Personally, I am more into the plan and get organized spirit in September than I am in January, as I am often a bit wiped out by the holidays. The other thing since having kids, is that midnight seems really late and I worry about my lucidity in promising to anything at that hour.
However... this year will be different (the famous New Year's Eve mantra I know...) but I thought I'd take the challenge to get my self good and resolute for 2015. There are lots of areas of my life where I'd like to make some changes and sometimes it's hard to know where to start. So I took it to several writers, personalities, and experts on self, relationships, parenting, and families to see what resolutions they were planning for a healthy 2015.


Ron Lieber NYTimes Your Money columnist and author of The Opposite of Spoiled, is vowing to ask more and better questions about money and values at the dinner table.
Katie Hurley - parenting expert and writer - says that although she doesn't really set specific goals for New Year's Eve her family has a motto that they “Discuss often and practice daily: Be kind. Be patient. Be empathic. Be helpers.”
Dr. Dona Matthews- educational expert and author-  lends us a great New Year's resolution she started with her children when they were little: “Perform a daily mitzvah, an act of random kindness, with no expectation of reward—it worked brilliantly to turn around a scratchy time.”


Rebecca Eanes - author and positive parenting - educator plans to “make sure everyone in my house goes to bed feeling loved, adored, and valued every night.”
Andy Smithson - parenting expert and clinical social worker - shares that as a dad of four with a fifth expected in January he is resolving to "set specific time to spend special time individually with each child" to make sure the "just Dad and me" outings happen more often.


Andrea Nair - psychotherapist and parenting expert - says that the goal for this year will be to “find rest in everyday.”
For sleep expert Alanna McGinn this year, resolutions are not surprisingly about sleep.  She would encourage others to do the same “make sleep a priority and get it in your calendar or set your alarm clock to go to bed, aim to go thirty minutes earlier each night.”


Ariadne Brill - positive discipline parenting educator - plans to be deliberate with her time and planning stating that “I notice the weeks that I pause and organize the week well, the whole family dynamic is positive and connected, less rush, less stress.”

Healthy Self/Relationships

Kali Rogers Life Coach shares, "My New Years Resolution is to minimize the guilt I store in my life. I’ll find that I will sometimes feel guilty over treating myself, not working 24/7, or enjoying myself on a Wednesday. We all should enjoy life and not feel burdened by the drive to be busy and productive every day of every week! So I’m going to try my best to kick my guilt to the curb this year!" 
Casey Wilson O'Roarty - positive discipline trainer and life coach - wants to continue with something she already instituted into her life: morning meditation and journalling and wants to “increase my presence through the day and also be aware of when I am letting life happen rather than making life happen”.
Life and business coach and self-love expert Alexis Meads of Crazy Wild Love says her goal for this year is to "be more authentically and openly myself. To not compare myself to others or worry what people may think. To allow myself with that intention to be even more real and open in my writing.”
And lastly, Matt Clarke, from the hilarious youtube sensation Convos with my Two Year-Old, shares "This year I am resolving to be more present with my family. I need to invent an app that shuts down and locks my phone when it sense that it's family time. This app may save my phone from my wife burying it in the backyard or "accidentally" dropping it in the garbage disposal.
As you sit down to make your resolutions, I hope you feel inspired. All in all, rest is a biggie as well as mindfulness, kindness—to self and others, living authentically and with intention, get organized, focus on the family, lose the guilt and embrace the love.
This could be the start of a beautiful year.

Please share your resolutions below and if you would like to read more about fresh starts please check out New Year's Plan Not Sticking? It's All Okay and Overwhelmed? Make Molehills out of Mountains.
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Getting a Haircut? How to Donate Hair for Cancer Wigs

Come on. You probably don't need it all anyway.

Getting a Haircut? How to Donate Hair for Cancer Wigs

donating hair for cancer wigs

Cancer affects us all. It's taken lives and robbed years of health and happiness from people we love. I've experienced loss because of cancer, and when watching others face it you can feel helpless.

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It is often a crisis that calls you to action. Friends of ours faced the horrific discovery of a tumour on their daughter's brain stem shortly before she was to return to school one year, and the entire family have been in an exhausting daily battle since. I've felt helpless being many miles away, but I knew one small thing that could be done was to donate hair to be used as wigs for children and adults who've lost their hair to chemotherapy or radiation treatments. 

A head of hair is something many people take for granted - and it's a simple thing really - when you have it. For those who don't, it can make a difference of whether or not they feel comfortable leaving their homes and participating in life.

Unfortunately mine is colour-treated with bleaching, which when I checked makes it unusable, however, my almost five year-old daughter's hair was a possibility. I discussed it with her and we talked about helping others and why some children could really benefit from her simply cutting her hair. She was on board, so it grew for another six months before we headed to the salon. She sat excitedly and wide-eyed in the chair. She has only had a few hair cuts in her life so this was an interesting experience and a big change for her. It was funny that I was a little nervous, since girls and hair have a weird association that some feel protective of for no apparent reason.

In the end, my daughter was happy with her haircut.  I'm sure knowing that her hair would go to help others was part of that conclusion, and so we mailed off her donation shortly after the cut. I included a note with her name and age - which is an option - and she received a thank you from the organization. Although one is not able to donate to a specific child, one little girl in particular was certainly in our hearts and minds throughout the process.

Giving Back: Teaching Your Kids About "Every Day" Charity

Perhaps you have considered donating hair but are unsure of how to do it, but it's actually quite simple. We donated through Pantene Beautiful Lengths. Here are some additional ways you can donate hair:

For Pantene Beautiful Lengths, they require 8 inches of non-bleach treated (dyed hair is fine) hair and you can simply mail it in. You can print out an e-label to cover the postage, then put the donation in a plastic bag and mail it in a plastic or padded envelope to:



For more information see: Get Involved

Another program is Angel Hair for Kids. They require 12 inches of hair for their donations. The mailing instructions are similar to the beautiful lengths program, but they have a form you can fill out and they will send you a certification acknowledging your donation. They request a two dollar donation accompany the hair donation. Mail hair to:


 L4Y 2Z6

Read more at: Hair Donation Guidelines

360 Hair also accepts hair donations for wig-making use. You can see their guidelines and criteria which are similar to those stated above. Hair donations are accepted across Canada, and a comprehensive list of hair donations sites and addresses can be found here. For most programs, there is no maximum length, just that hair must be clean and dry and gathered at the source, and not off the floor. It must also be secured by an elastic in a braid or ponytail.

One additional tip: Ask for two or more ponytails at the salon when having hair cut. It provides a straighter cut to work with afterwards without the loss of unnecessary and unusable length.  It may also be a good idea to speak to your hairdresser first, and, if this is your first visit at this salon, make sure the stylist knows exactly how much hair you will be donating. You may choose to give only eight inches, yet somehow find 12+ on the floor. A compassionate salon staff are necessary for a positive experience and it may be worth investing the time to find out if a salon has performed any "donation cuts" before agreeing to don the plastic apron.

To read more articles about living life and self-care, see How to Love the Life You Live Right Now and Overwhelmed? Make Molehills out of Mountains!
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