Don't Let Anxious Thoughts Ruin Your Day

Interrupt Anxiety: Breathe In, Break Thoughts, and Be Free

Don't Let Anxious Thoughts Ruin Your Day

Have you ever experienced that caught-off-guard, hit-by-a-bus, all-consuming anxious moment? It is common to most of us. That feeling of sudden worry about an unrelated issue can leave you unable to think about anything else. Perhaps an earlier issue you thought you got a grip of has returned, or a new fear has cropped up. Your heart sinks and you slip into the nauseous world of anxious thoughts and feelings.

Often it is anticipation about the unknown and not the situation that causes anxiety. A challenge at work or confrontation with a friend are difficult events, but its the reliving and attempting to predict the future that really tear you up. How many fictional outcomes and conversations occur in our mind that never materialize? Often entirely different outcomes occur or a decision to leave it alone resolves everything.

I just had one of these moments. Out of nowhere, on a beautiful fall drive, my thoughts and worries had taken hold of me. An earlier stressful situation had been playing on my mind, but I thought I had processed it enough and decided to let it lie; however, when a new bit of stress came up, the old one also came flooding back in with a vengeance. I was getting consumed by various worries.

Then clarity happened and a decision, THIS IS NOT ON! A kind of “physician heal thyself” moment occurred where I asked, "What would I tell my clients or a friend to do?" With a decision to reject the rumination, I thought about what I should do instead. So, a new path was forged.

First, I remembered to breathe while practicing presence and awareness. It felt good!

Then Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques came to mind, which are full on kryptonite for negative cognitions.

  • What was really going on here?

  • What were the chances of it going as horrible as I could imagine?

  • What would happen if it went this horrible route?

  • Would it matter to who I am or my perception of myself?

  • What were the pros and cons to continue to think down this line?

  • What was my worry providing for me?

Asking questions about the reality of the situation helped me establish clarity. My negative thoughts retreated and broke away.

As it happened, an hour or two later I went trampolining. In enjoying this experience with my daughter I could also reflect on how the negative thoughts and worries were gone and instead I was in the moment, carefree and happy. The following day I topped it off with an amusement ride at fall fair. I usually let my husband do the ride thing, but I just knew that I had to do it this time with all I had processed and, again, enjoyed the hysterical, fun (and very spin-y) abandon. Trampolines or the visiting fair may not be available, but in the moment, enjoyable times are.

David Burns, author of best-selling novel Feeling Good, acknowledges that it is not easy, but states that “when you change the way you think, you can change the way you feel.” Using these tips can help you redirect when anxious thoughts take hold. For more pervasive struggles with anxiety, it is always important to seek ongoing help and support.
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Tangy Tomato Pantry Pasta - with Ingredients You Have!

The Ingredients are Calling From Inside the House!!!!

Tangy Tomato Pantry Pasta - with Ingredients You Have!

The bloggers at Yummy Mummy Club were given a challenge to submit a quick, under 30 minute, dinner recipe. Dinner in 30? I say, let's do it in 10!

I normally stick to writing about relationships as the in-house blogger on all things relational, but I find rapport is better when people aren't hungry or hangry, for that matter, so feeding people is still on point.

This is my quick and easy, few groceries in the house, time is limited, dinner go-to. I always at least have pasta and a tin of tomatoes somewhere in the pantry, so I can easily get this yummy pasta supper on the table. 


1 lb of pasta (sea shells, penne, or macaroni work well)
2 tbsp of butter
1/4 tsp (or +) of red pepper flakes
1/3 cup of dry white wine or apple juice
1.5 cups of crushed tomatoes (crushed is preferred, but diced could work—whatever is in the pantry will do!)
1 tbsp and 1/2 tsp of sea salt
Grated Parmesan (optional)
 Cook 1 lb of pasta with 1 tbsp of sea salt. 
 While the pasta is cooking, take out a skillet and put two tablespoons of butter in the pan and melt on low to medium heat.
 Add 1/4 tsp of red pepper flakes (adjust up or down to gear to your family's spice/heat tolerance). At the same time, add 1/2 cup of dry white wine, like a sauvignon blanc. Surely there is a useable half a bottle of forgotten white wine corked in the fridge door. Don't have it? Grab apple juice (there is enough in that juice box in the pantry). 100% Apple juice or even grape juice works great. Keep this cooking on low heat for a couple of minutes.
 Tangy tomato time! Add 1.5 cups of crushed tomatoes and a 1/2 teaspoon of salt, cook 5-7 minutes on a medium-low setting until thickened.
Now you can run and set the table and call the family, dinner is almost done. Better yet, get them to set the table and you pour yourself some of that remaining wine.
 Rinse pasta and then combine with sauce and give it a good stir.
 Serve. Parm it, if you got it!
Ten minutes and a meal in a pinch—time and ingredients!
For more about relationship and life tips, see Family Flight Tips on the Fly  and Great Sleep Tips When You Are Too Tired to Sleep.
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