This week, Tori Spelling debuts her 45lb post-baby weight loss in US Magazine. In the corresponding article, she talks about her unplanned fourth pregnancy, the placenta previa which caused bed rest and her (gasp) 30lb weight gain. While I won't deny the woman had a tough pregnancy and her delivery was followed up by emergency surgery less than a month after baby Finn was born, I am sick to absolute death of how mothers are being portrayed in the media these days. Tori Spelling is a naturally slender woman who also happens to be able to afford a personal trainer, a cleaner, a live-in nanny and a personal cook. Of COURSE she is going to be slender after having 4 kids.
On the one hand, we've got Kim K. She's too fat. Her partner doesn't find her attractive. Her clothes are awful. On the other, we've got BIKINI READY IN FOUR MONTHS. This has got to just stop.
Jezebel posted an amazing article this week about mothers, too. It's really worth the read and much more in line with how we should be talking about our wonderful, beautiful bodies. With Dove's recent addition to their campaign for real beauty, we need to understand that how we see ourselves is different than how others see us, and we need to stop allowing the media to dictate to us what is beautiful. Because WE are beautiful. As women. As mothers.
I tell people this all the time — even after spending years as a model and occasional actress, I never felt more beautiful, sexy and powerful than I did after I gave birth to our first born. And I feel even more amazing today, carrying our second-soon-to-be-born son. I've even toyed with the idea of going back into modelling, just going after a different market, because I think my new-found confidence could be a real boone. And more women need to see their reflections in the pages of magazines. Because we are beautiful. We've done something amazing, and we deserve to be celebrated.
And I could give two shits if my stomach ever looks the way it did before I had Henry. Because to me, it's far more beautiful now.
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