An Open Letter to Women in Abusive Relationships

Dear friend,

I want you to know that you're strong, and you're not alone. Many women have been in relationships just like yours.

I want you to know that you have resources available to you, and people who care about you.

I've never met you, but I promise you, I care.

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You're probably feeling confused and scared. He's told you that he'll change. He's told you that "it" will never happen again. He has bawled his eyes out, begging for you to stay. You want to believe him. You want to believe that this time it will be different.

You feel like a failure and you're worried what your family and friends will think. Do you talk to your family and friends anymore? Or has he totally isolated you from them? Found excuses and reasons to keep you away?

Bit by bit he has chiselled away at your confidence and your self-esteem. You used to be bold and strong, but now you feel oh-so-frail. You can barely recognize yourself anymore.

How did it get to this point? Who have you become?

You blame yourself. Always. You keep trying to fix things, you keep thinking that maybe if you just try a little harder, things will get better. And sometimes the do. But only for a little while.

There's yelling. Tears. Manipulative comments. He humiliates you, and puts you down. He flirts with other girls, yet somehow - that's your fault too.

Well I'm here to tell you - it's NOT your fault. You have done nothing wrong.

I'm also here to tell you that you deserve a better life. This isn't what love is supposed to feel like. You deserve to feel happy. You deserve to be yourself, and be loved for who you are.

And believe me, you are amazing.

Please take a moment to look at your children.

Look deep into their eyes and ask yourself, "Would I ever let anyone treat them this way?"

So please. I'm begging you, friend. On this day - take a stand. Make the decision to leave, or start making plans to get out. Take a step, and know that you don't need to walk out today if that's not a safe option for you, and keeping you and your family safe is the ultimate goal. Call a friend, a family member, or a local women's shelter.

You deserve a better life. You deserve happiness.

You are strong. You can do this.

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