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A to Z of Taming Tantrums: W is for "When/ then"

Use this helpful parenting tool to increase kid-cooperation!

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Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums parenting series. This video is for the letter W, and W is for my FAVOURITE parenting tool: “when/ then.”

A “when/ then” is so useful! It encourages children to do something that is necessary while keeping the power struggle out of the task.

Please watch this video for more information:

For example, asking, “Would you like to come put your shoes on,” will likely respond in, “NO!” Turning this request into a when/ then increases the chance your child will cooperate:

“When this song is over, then we’re putting our shoes on,” or…

“When your shoes are on, then we can go to the park.”

“When I finish drying these dishes, then we’re putting our shoes on!”

“After/ then” and also “first, then” are great variations of this tool.

Here is an article I wrote about this topic, which has other examples. Also, my Taming Tantrums app has even more “when/ then” examples. Do you have any questions? Feel free to ask those on the video comment box or over on my Facebook page

We're so excited to share with you the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series! 

Each week we'll share the next letter of the alphabet and Andrea will discuss how it relates to reducing tantrums - and improve our experience as parents! You can view each video here as they are added each Friday.