Andrea Loewen Nair: Connect-Four Parenting


A to Z of Taming Tantrums: Q is for Quiet

Quiet time does prevent tantrums! Here's how...

A to Z of Taming Tantrums |

Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series. This episode is about the letter Q and Q is for Quiet. I don’t mean that need we need to try to get our children to be quieter, but rather to use the tantrum prevention strategy of giving our young ones lots of quiet time.

Some children who are introverts might have a large need to be in a quiet environment, and others might not need as much. I certainly notice when I haven’t had enough quiet time and almost feel like exploding—children go through the same thing.

Quiet time does quite a lot for us: it gives us an opportunity to recharge, reset, and regroup. It also gives us time with our thoughts, feelings, and to do what we’d like to—to be in control.

In this video, I explain more about that:

Please note that different children need different levels and amounts of quiet. I call it a quiet bucket: imagine each child has an imaginary bucket or tank inside that gets filled or emptied in regards to how much alone and quiet time they need to feel centered. Even within the same family, siblings might have very different sized quiet buckets.

Also consider that visual stimulus might be considered “noise” by some people.  Clutter, lots of items around or on display, or active-looking posters or art on the walls can feel loud by some. If your child is old enough to understand, perhaps ask how he or she feels about the things in the room(s).

I invite you over to my Facebook page if you would like to comment or ask a question. Here’s hoping you get a moment of quiet today!

We're so excited to share with you the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series! 

Each week we'll share the next letter of the alphabet and Andrea will discuss how it relates to reducing tantrums - and improve our experience as parents! You can view each video here as they are added each Friday.