Andrea Loewen Nair: Connect-Four Parenting


A to Z of Taming Tantrums: C is for Calm

Calming is very important and can be quite challenging. Here are my tips for being calm when our children are upset.

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Hello! Welcome to the third episode of our A to Z of Taming Tantrums Series. Today’s video is about the letter C, and C is for Calm.

Calming down is certainly an easy thing to say, yet often, a very difficult thing to do. The part of our minds that trigger strong feelings of anger or frustration get activated when our children experience emotional upset.

Not only do we need to support our kiddos during tantrums, but we have the big task of shifting from our “back-brains” (the limbic system where the fight-flight reaction gets activated) to our “front-brains,” too (the prefrontal cortex where our rational and critical thought get stimulated.)

In this week’s video, I talk about how to make this shift:

If you’d like more information, I recommend these resources:

The Whole-Brain Child by Dan Seigel, MD & Tina Payne Bryson, PhD

Steps To Help Calm Yourself Down When Emotions Rise Up

Temper Tamer: How To Make & Use A Calm-Down Jar

My Taming Tantrums App (For iPhone & Android)

My eBook: Taming Tantrums: A Connect Four Parenting Approach to Raising Cooperative Toddlers

We're so excited to share with you the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series! 

Each week we'll share the next letter of the alphabet and Andrea will discuss how it relates to reducing tantrums - and improve our experience as parents! You can view each video here as they are added each Friday.