My Favourite Parenting Things

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My Favourite Parenting Things

There are so many wonderful parenting writers and researchers out there, I wanted to provide a list of my go-to sources to make finding them easier. All the people here provide information that I trust. This is information based in solid research that made me shout with joy or move me to tears.

There are many really wonderful books out there, and it was hard to narrow this list down. I continue to read new books each week, and have some super-looking ones waiting in my "to read" pile. I'll keep posting reviews and suggestions over on my Facebook page.

Right now, my favourite parenting books are:

PEACEFUL PARENT, HAPPY KIDS by Laura Markham, PhD — Calming down when it is hard/ positive discipline 

QUIET: THE POWER OF INTROVERTS IN A WORLD THAT CAN'T STOP TALKING by Susan Cain — An excellent read for parents of introverted children.



IF I HAVE TO TELL YOU ONE MORE TIME... by Amy McCready — Positive discipline

MIND IN THE MAKING by Ellen Galinsky — Coaching our children with essential life skills

SIBLING WITHOUT RIVALRY by Faber & Mazlish — Managing sibling fights

FROM FRAZZLED TO FOCUSED by Rivka Caroline — Making life better with time management & systems


DARING GREATLY by Brene Brown — Parenting with your whole heart

WHAT MAKES LOVE LAST? by Gottman & Silver — A relationship book with excellent communication information

DUCT TAPE PARENTING by Vicki Hoefle — Tips to reducing parenting stress & improving child cooperation

LIGHT WEB DARK WEB by Raffi Cavoukian — Keeping children safe in this digital age

THE A TO Z OF CHILDREN'S HEALTH by Friedman, Saunders & Saunders — Children's health

PARENTING: ILLUSTRATED WITH CRAPPY PICTURES by Amber Dusick — This helps us to laugh at the crazy things that happen while raising young children. Laughing is so important during this challenging time.

DRUNK MOM by Jowita Bydlowska — This is a moving memoire by a mother who struggled with alcoholism, which took over her just after the birth of her child. I consider this an excellent parenting book because there are many parents out there who live with addictions and would benefit from reading this book.


Most of the authors above have Facebook pages which are super, so please do find their websites and click on the Facebook links.

The parenting pages that I love are: by Dr. Laura Markham. I mentioned her book above, and need to mention this page because it is just so fabulous.

Positive Parenting Solutions by Amy McCready. Again, an author above with a very helpful Facebook page.

Tru Parenting by Andy Smithson

Kelly Bartlett "Connection is everything."

The Hands Free Revolution by Rachel Stafford "Letting go to grasp what really matters."

Practical Parenting by Katie by Katie Hurley 

Good Night Sleep Site by Alanna McGinn

Jessica Lahey Jessica Lahey is a middle-school teacher who writes fantastic articles for The Atlantic, the New York Times Motherlode, among others. Her parent-teacher series on the Motherlode is very insightful.

Positive Parenting:Toddler and Beyond by Rebecca Eanes & Laura Ling

Erica Ehm's Yummy Mummy Club by Erica Ehm — Parenting Publication

Roots of Action by Marilyn Price-Mitchell — Super resource for parents of teens

Postpartum Progress by Katherine Stone — Excellent information about Postpartum Disorder (PPD) and Postpartum Psychosis (PPP)

Positive Parenting Connection by Ariadne Brill

Bobblehead Dad by Jim Higley

Tina Payne Bryson, PhD Tina writes with Dr. Dan Siegel who also has a great facebook page. 

Dr. Jennifer Hartstein — Girl Power!

Sara Chana Radcliffe Parenting 

And me! Andrea Nair — parenting educator

Whew, I could go on and on! I will continue to post more wonderful resources over on my page. 



7 Ways to Cut Stress During the Holidays

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7 Ways to Cut Stress During the Holidays

I remember Christmas the year my second child was born, and my oldest was two-years-old – it wasn’t pretty. The pressures to continue holiday traditions, bake up a storm, send Christmas cards and create memories to last a lifetime were close to getting the better of me.

One day a lovely older woman looked at me with care while I was carting my two young children through the decoration aisles at the store. She must have smelled my exhaustion and sweetly said, “You can skip Christmas this year.” I sobbed. Later I realized this lady was on to something. I actually did give myself permission to do a seriously scaled-back Christmas that year.

Your Holiday Stress Survival Guide

You can skip the holidays, or at least do a paired-down version when you have little ones or are feeling overwhelmed.

The holidays can be quite stressful, but much of that stress is due to pushing ourselves beyond what is necessary. Our children can be ecstatically happy with very little. Often it is our own expectations, or the feeling we need to compete with family members or friends to create the holiday of our child’s dreams, that drive us over the edge. Our children want us much more than things.

Here are my suggestions to pull the stress out of the holidays:

Make a budget and stick to it!

Decide the total amount you are going to spend on everything, not forgetting alcohol, food, lights and decorations. Many families get swept up in entertaining, one more stocking stuffer, and one more box of chocolates, panicking when the credit card bills arrive in January. Be proactive about your spending. These things will not make us happier – we don’t need them to make the holidays better.

I love the post called, “Holiday Shopping. We Can Do Better.” by Joshua Becker on He started the post with a quote from Dr. Seuss, which is always a great way to begin! My other favourite line in the piece is: “We can choose to value relationships over purchases.”

The Best Gift You Can Give Your Kids? This

Do baking only if you have time and you enjoy it.

Are you on the Yummy Mummy Club newsletter? I ask because this morning I just got an email from YMC with a bunch of awesome, easy baking recipes. You can go into the "Recipes" section on the front page of this website or "Foodies" in the menu at the top to find these recipes.

That year I took Christmas mostly off, I chose to belly up to a church bake sale and seriously bought them out. If you go to bake sales, bring cash and get there early! I also found a bakery with super dainties, and actually have been buying those each year, and have skipped baking squares ever since.

Coach children to be content with a smaller number of gifts.

Your children can be happy with 1-3 presents instead of 13. Take time to coach your children about quality versus quantity during gift-receiving time. Your children will not love you more if you blow the bank on their gifts. Show your love with your daily interaction with them, not by guiltily buying more than they need. Also, any time you spend with your children and not at the mall is better for you and them.

I love the article “All I want for Christmas is… everything!” in the December 2013 edition of Today’s Parent magazine about setting limits with gift buying. The writer Ceri Marsh gives great suggestions to stop “spoiling” children without being the bad guy. I discovered in this article that travel writer Helen Greenwood Davis, along with her children, decided to forego presents altogether. That is an interesting concept — do you think your family would go for that?

Top Five Easiest Christmas Cookie Recipes

Simplify gift giving for family members/friends by sending a picture instead of presents.

As I mentioned above, time spent in a mall may not be time well spent. Running around buying presents for many people can wear on the environment, our kids, our nerves and our pocket book. I know many of my family members would rather see pictures of our kids than get material objects. Hey family, guess get what you’re getting this year?! 

Use the term, “No, thank you.”

You do not have to go to each event you are invited to. I know it can be hard to say “No,” but sometimes that might be what we really need to do.

Tracy Moore of Cityline mentioned this to me, “I’m trying to be really pro-active about protecting my sanity this holiday season and I've already pre-emptively said no to almost every event that's come my way. So far it's working!” I love this! Although events can be really fun, if you don’t feel rested enough, it might be more enjoyable to have a great night’s sleep and feel better the next day.

Remember that your friends want to see you, not your decorations or hors d’oeuvres.

Time with people you adore is what counts. Don’t wait until you have your decorations, food or house-cleaning done perfectly to have people over. My husband just informed me, “Most of our friends would be just as happy with a bag of chips and a great drink.” (But maybe that's just our friends!) You know, I think he’s right. People want to spend time with you, not your décor. (Although, when I am feeling rested and the creative bug does hit, I rely heavily on Sarah Gunn for help in that department. She’s Canada’s Martha Stewart, but better.)

Send a personalized email note and picture instead of hand-written cards.

I know that receiving cards at holiday time feels good, but it is okay if you need to take a year or two off of this and send out an email letter instead. You can create a lovely, heart-felt letter with a picture inserted into the body of the message (avoid sending an attachment that can get caught in a spam-filter). I sent email notes for a few years and loved getting the replies that many people sent back.


I’d love to hear things you have discovered which reduced your stress at holiday time. You are welcome to post them here or over on my Facebook page

Photo -- Flickr Creative Commons Phae