Mar
27
2012

Father to Inseminate Daughter-in-Law

Like Father, Like Grandfather

Father to Inseminate Daughter-in-Law

For couples struggling to fall pregnant, the options available are as expensive as they care complex. Infertility is nothing short of a physical and emotional roller coaster. But when it comes to choosing between IVF, surrogacy, and adoption, few would consider turning to their father-in-law for—ahem—assistance.  

According to a report by Msnbc, to a couple in the Netherlands, it was important that their child-to-be bore their genetic makeup. And since the husband failed to produce adequate sperm, and had no siblings, the couple naturally turned to the man's father to request a sperm contribution. Strangely, everyone agreed that this was the perfect collaboration.   

And despite some deliberation by an ethics committee, the fertility clinic eventually agreed to go ahead with the donation.

Director of the Center for Ethics at Yeshiva University in New York City, Adrienne Asch, warns the couple might be getting into hot water when mixing, so to speak, business with pleasure.

“The notion that this child’s grandfather would be his biological father is just too bizarre for the child’s sake,” said George Annas, chair of the Department of Health Law, Bioethics & Human Rights at Boston University School of Public Health. “Family relationships are confused enough as they are when they’re not intergenerational.” 

But imagine the sitcom potential! The couple fending off all those awkward 'He really looks like his Granddad...' incidences. While it may work a treat in a Larry David script, the day-to-day reality may not be so much fun. 

What do you think? When it comes to artificial insemination: all in the family, or tangled family ties? 

 
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Mar
27
2012

Man Rapes in his Sleep

Sexsomniac on Trial

Man Rapes in his Sleep

When it comes to rape, there's no excuse, right? Then what about the Swedish man whose alleged defence case alleges that he was asleep during the crime which took place in June.

The 27-year-old cited a history of sexsomnia in his testimony. Sexsomnia is a rare medical condition in which people do the dirty while sound asleep, with no recollection the next day. Sounds convenient, but is it actually true in this man's case?

After a boozy night in the village of Vihelmina, the plaintiff and defendant had both fallen asleep when he raped her.  He claims to have woken only when she started pushing him. Apparently, just like this guy, he had a long history of "somnambulating sexual assault" against his girlfriend who would recount how she spent the night fending him off. Sounds exhausting and not especially gratifying, either.

It's actually not the first time sexsomoniacs have hit the stand. In 2007, a 38-year-old man was acquitted after being accused of molesting an 8-year-old girl. Just last year, another (man) accused of raping a sleeping woman got off with the sleep defence.

Do you think this defence holds solid, or is rape rape?

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Mar
26
2012

Women Re-Do Husbands' Chores

A Domestic Do Over

Women Re-Do Husbands' Chores

Hands up who has to reload the dishwasher after their husband has done it?  Well, we're not alone, yummies. According to a poll reported in the Telegraph, the majority of women deem it necessary to 'do over' the chores their domestically challenged spouses proudly tackle around the house.

And all that re-doing of chores adds up to a staggering three hours a week! Three hours too many, if you ask me. If women want equality, then we shouldn't be re-doing tasks that have been assigned to our husbands in the name of domestic bliss, regardless of how slovenly said tasks are performed. 
 
Admittedly I am fussy about how things are done, and like many women, this perfectionism only serves to quadruple my anxiety levels and my workload around the house. While I'm grateful that my husband pitches in more around the house than his father and his father's father—and though I've relaxed a lot over the years—I still sometimes find myself finishing or fixing a job he supposedly took care of, e.g. wiping countertops (nearly half of the women polled are with me on this one), making the bed (32 per cent), dishwasher, etc.
 
My affliction isn't uncommon. But that doesn't make it less of a problem. My husband doesn't know how to hang the hand towels in the bathroom. And, as if to confound me, he just doesn't care enough to learn the 'proper way.' Like half of the women in the study, I try not to sweat the small stuff. At least he won't be the one with the ulcer. 
 
What chores does your partner do that you inevitably wind up redoing? Do you begrudge the extra work?
 
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