Sep
22
2014

When Is A Child Old Enough To Play Outside Alone?

Parents are still torn when it comes to allowing their kids to play unsupervised

When Is A Child Old Enough To Play Outside Alone?

Or is age just a number when it comes to this divisive question? Parents are still torn when it comes to allowing their kids to play unsupervised. Though the trend is increasingly to let kids spread their wings and get back to the kind of free-roaming childhood many of us enjoyed, opinions tend to differ, sometimes vastly, as to what is an appropriate amount of freedom. 
 
When Texan mom Kari Anne Roy let her 6-year-old son play alone in a park about 150 yards from her home, she didn't expect a visit from the police or Child Protective Services (CAS). (To the mathematically challenged among us, 150 yards is around the length of a football field.) And this measurement is crucial to the story, because the boy wasn't playing in the front yard or even the neighbour's front yard. 

His mom couldn't see him, therefore couldn't help him at the drop of a hat, should he have needed her assistance. And it was this crucial detail that prompted a neighbour to not only escort the boy home, but to call the cops, which led to a later visit from the CAS. 

“The children were awestruck and worried that a police officer had just questioned their mother in front of them. I was mortified. And angry. They were just playing outside. I can't emphasize that enough,” wrote Roy on her blog.

And while the reaction seems a bit heavy handed, the authorities had to question Roy about her home environment, ruling out things like substance abuse and neglect. 

Roy's 6-year-old stayed behind in the park after his 8-year-old sister came home. To me, that would have been the time to send a sibling back to fetch him, or to promptly get him myself. My son is on the eve of his sixth's birthday and though I know that six year olds are not created equally, I can't fathom letting him play in a public place without supervision.
 
While I wouldn't demonize another parent for making that decision, in the neighbour's position I would probably have accompanied the child home, too. Who knows, I may also have been concerned enough to have the authorities check in just to make sure the home situation was OK. And that was the CAS's call to make, not mine. 
 
You tell me: should there be legally defined boundaries as to when kids can be alone in public places?
 
Did this mom deserve to be arrested for letting her kid play in the park unsupervised?
 
Sep
22
2014

Are You Unwittingly Putting Your Children At Risk Online?

When Tagging Isn't Enough

Are You Unwittingly Putting Your Children At Risk Online?

We all do it, unthinkingly, but could all of those tidbits we put on Facebook and Instagram about our kids—status updates, photos, videos—one day come back to bite them (and us) in the ass? 

Good social media etiquette tells us not to upload a photo of someone else's kid without tagging them. Yet as parents, are we compromising our kids' safety (not to mention their dignity) with what we give away about them every day? This fascinating article questions whether it's ethical to publish something "about someone who can’t give their consent." 

Where it used to be that your parents would only whip out embarrassing photo albums when a boyfriend came around for dinner, these days our digital footprint starts the moment we're born and isn't safely confined to a bookshelf.  

No wonder this generation is opting for transient sites like Snapchat, where uploads virtually disintegrate over time. As parents, we are charged with protecting our kids but what if, despite our best efforts to protect our kids, we are the very people endangering them?

At the risk of sounding paranoid, a recent US study found that of the 63% of moms that use Facebook a staggering 97% post photos of their children. And while most of us set privacy settings so that only our friends can see them, is that adequate, especially when many of us have hundreds of 'friends'? 

Director of the Oxford Internet Institute, Victoria Nash, cautions against the type of information you choose to reveal, “...which might include things like date of birth, place of birth, the child’s full name, or tagging of any photographs with a geographical location—anything that could be used by somebody who wanted to steal your child’s identity."

A good question to ask yourself is before posting is would your child be comfortable with the world at large knowing this about them later on in life. We can speculate, but truly how are we to know?

Some parents opt to consistently use a pet name for their child online, which goes some way to ensuring protection against companies obtaining personal data. 

The safest approach, obviously, is to post nothing. So having cold feet, technically speaking, I once deactivated my Facebook for close to a year because I was concerned about all those well-meaning photos of my son. However, it turned out that people in my circles (including my husband!) were still blithely posting images and information about us. 

Though I've been back on FB for a while, this time I'm treading more carefully. I pre-approve any tagged images, but even that method relies on a lot of good faith that 'friends' always tag images.

The fact is, we just don't know what social media will look like by the time our kids become adults. Another round of leaked celebrity photos highlights just how vulnerable we are when it comes to tech, and our kids are perhaps the most vulnerable of all.

What measures do you take to protect your kids' privacy online? Read what our blogger Andrea Nair has done.

 

Sep
19
2014

RECALL: Ace Bayou Corp. Bean Bag Chairs

Suffocation Hazard

RECALL: Ace Bayou Corp. Bean Bag Chairs

Health Canada has recalled the above bean bag chairs, as children may ingest the polystyrene foam beads inside the chairs, which pose a suffocation hazard. 

While no incidents have been reported to Health Canada, two children (a 13-year-old boy and three-year-old girl) climbed inside the chairs and died after inhaling its foam beads.

Customers are advised to remove the chair immediately from young children and inspect the exterior zipper to see if it can be opened. If so, contact Ace Bayou Corporation to obtain a free Safety Enhancement Kit.

Ace Bayou Corporation can be reached at 1-855-571-8151 from 7:00 a.m. to 3:30 p.m. CT, Monday through Friday, or via Ace Bayou's website.

From January 2012, approximately 3,500 were sold in Canada. Please note: only those sold between January 2012 and July 2013 are affected by the recall.

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