My One Word For 2014

I Blame You, Buzzfeed!

My One Word For 2014

Every year instead of making a New Year’s resolution, I come up with a word for the year.

In 2012 that word was “Try.”

In 2013 it was “Fortitude” and my slogan was putting the FU in Fortitude, and I'm not gonna lie...I kinda did.

For 2014 my word is going to be, in case you didn't guess it from the picture above, is “Focus.” Meaning I need to learn how to focus on one thing at a time and not get distracted.

As in, I’m going to write this stor….OMG there are kitten GIFs on Buzzfeed!!!!!

It's no secret among my friends and family that I tend to get a little sidetracked. THERE IS SO MUCH TO SEE, DO, AND READ, PEOPLE.

Alt + Tab is my favourite hand exercise of all time. One minute I’m writing copy and the next I’m Alt + Tabbing my way over to Twitter and Facebook. What’s that?  New stories on Alexa! Bam! The thumb and forefinger on my left hand are inordinately fast and they seem to have a mind of their own. I have painted my nails while on a Skpe call and Candy Crushed my way to a new high score while watching a movie.

It's a problem.

Focus will also carry over into my triathlon training and speed skating because I don’t really need to be thinking about my grocery list when I’m cycling, do I? Or composing a story in my head when I’m swimming because what I really need to be focusing on is my swim stroke so, you know, I don’t drown.

I Alt + Tabbed three times, dusted shelves, and had a conversation with my son while writing this.

My focus is a problem so this year I’m going to try to clean up those fuzzy edges and hone in on whatever it is I’m supposed to be doing instead of…

well, everything else.

What’s your word for the year?


How to Prepare Your Child for a Food Allergy Challenge

And how you can learn from the mistake I made

How to Prepare Your Child for a Food Allergy Challenge

How to Prepare Your Child for a Food Allergy Challenge

When Adam was a toddler, he was diagnosed as having severe allergies to all nuts, eggs, shellfish, wheat, dairy, and strawberries. That was the day carrying an EpiPen (epinephrine auto-injector), reading food labels, asking about ingredients, and always being vigilant about the food he came into contact with became a part of our lives.

At the age of eight, Adam had a blood test done at his allergist's office and it showed he was possibly no longer allergic to eggs and peanuts. Our allergist suggested we wait a few months then bring him in to do a food allergy challenge. We would start with eggs.

The test would consist of us bringing cooked scrambled eggs to the allergist’s office. We would start off by putting a small amount of the egg on his cheek and waiting 20 minutes to see if there was a reaction. Next we would put a small amount on his lip and wait another 20 minutes for a reaction. The egg would then go on the inside of his lip, then his tongue. The format of the test would continue this way until he gradually consumed small amounts of egg, increasing the amount every 20 minutes.

We were ecstatic. No longer severely allergic to peanuts and eggs? We felt like we had won the lottery. I couldn’t get him to the allergist’s office fast enough.

This is where we learned a huge lesson.

The testing didn’t go well. Simply put, he refused to eat the eggs because he thought if he ate them he would die.

For over six years we had been telling Adam that eating peanuts or eggs was dangerous. For six years we stressed to him the importance of always asking about the ingredients in food, to always read labels, and to always carry his EpiPen. He absolutely could not eat eggs or peanuts under any circumstance.

And now we were bringing him into an office and saying, “Hey, Adam! Eat some eggs!”

Of course it makes complete sense, but our excitement over the possibility of being able to eliminate these two foods from his list of allergies didn’t allow us to see it. Eventually we did do the food allergy challenge but the amount of stress it put on my son still leaves me filled with guilt to this day. So I want you to learn from my mistake.

It is so important to prepare your child for a trip to the allergist no matter what the circumstances. Going to an allergist can be a scary thing, especially when a child hears they are going to have their skin “pricked” or “scratched.”

But if your child is going to doctor’s office for a food allergy challenge, it is so important to prepare them for the experience.

Here’s how we prepared our son for his next food allergy challenge:

  1. We spoke to him about how the food allergy challenge was a good thing. If he was no longer allergic, it would open up a whole new world of foods to him.
  2. We spoke about his feelings and that it was okay to be nervous or afraid and we would be with him every step of the way.
  3. We let him know that if there was any kind of reaction in the skin testing portion of the challenge, we wouldn’t proceed. Period.
  4. We reassured him that we were in a controlled environment with his doctor and an EpiPen was on hand in case there was a reaction.

This wasn’t a one-time conversation. We spoke to him over and over until the day of his appointment and let him know that his feelings are important, but this is also something he needed to do. We also gave him some control and allowed him to choose when we would go to do the challenge and what food he would eat to see if he was no longer allergic to peanuts.

We’re happy to say that Adam is no longer allergic to peanuts and eggs and anytime we visit his allergist or doctor we always inform him as to what will happen. Knowledge is power and that holds true for our children as well.

Note: NEVER do a food allergy challenge at home. Reintroducing foods should only be done under the supervision of a doctor.

Severe allergies are on the rise in Canada.
We teamed up with EpiPen so you can arm yourself with information and be prepared if a life-threatening allergic reaction occurs.
You can find out more about life-threatening allergies and read stories from other parents on our A Parent’s Guide to Dealing with Kids with Severe Allergies page.

No Technology or Television: Part 2

The Good, The Bad, And The Holidays

No Technology or Television: Part 2

Find out what happens when a family stops using tech

We’re almost two months in to our house rule of “No Technology or Television” Monday to Friday.

The Good

The good is that we are spending more time together as a family. We talk more and I’ve laughed with my kids more in the past two months than previously when we were all hooked into computer screens.

We’ve played impromptu, made-up games, worked on spelling, read, and my youngest son went and got himself a newspaper route so he can save money to build a car using a snow blower motor. *insert me looking completely dumbfounded* Also, because he’s too young be delivering on his own it looks like I now have a paper route too but this is also a good thing because kids who are excited about delivering newspapers will talk about everything. There are no secrets on the paper route.

The Bad

The bad is that when this started I was watching Seasons four through eight of Weeds and now I can only watch it on weekends. It’s sort of driving me batty and yes, I did get busted trying to sneak in an episode after the kids went to bed and they came out and caught me.

The second bad was that my kids became computer zombified on Saturdays and Sundays so now on the weekends they are limited to two hours of computer time each. They were none too happy about this AT ALL.

I’m not sure if this is ‘bad’ per se but a couple of times over the past two weeks I’ve been tired because, you know, CHRISTMAS STUFF. So I’ve crashed on the couch and we all watched a holiday movie that I let them pick.  #Elf #FTW

But other than that, it hasn’t been bad at all and that’s a good thing.

The Holidays

Listen, I’m not crazy. I’m home for two weeks with my kids and I have to work during a portion of that time so we’ve established that they can have two hours a day computer time. This is how I’m actually able to write this post right now.

The whole thing is a work in progress with the basic rule staying the same but nothing set in stone.  All in all I’d say it’s a huge success. Bigger than I had anticipated. You should give it a try.

For reals.

I’ll post another update in a few months.