When your best creative energies are going into finding ways to get your kids to clean up after themselves and searching for recipes they'll eat, it can be hard to get creative connecting sexually with your husband at the end of the day.
After several years together, everybody needs a little something new. Why not play adult versions of hide and seek, dress up, treasure hunts, and teasing?
One night when grandma has the kids for sleep-over, try a night out of Hide and Seek. Instruct your husband to meet you in a particular place, flirt with you, pick you up and take you home. Choose a name for the night and try on a different persona. Dress up to be dominant, playful, sexy, hard-to-get, young and inexperienced, the cougar - any fantasy you like. Try out personas you'd never live out in real life. Show him a part of you he's never seen before! The Treasure Hunt is great for a quick rendez-vous. Leave a trail of notes for your partner from inside the front door. Include on each note an instruction, such as getting something out of the fridge or oven, taking off a particular article of clothing, washing up or prepping for a sexy romp. Each note also leads to a new instruction and destination. By the time your partner finds you, both your libidos will be running high. Teasing is a natural activity with kids. Teasing your partner can be even more fun. After a shower together, blindfold your partner and lead him to the bedroom. Attach a couple of scarves around the bedposts and instruct him to hold on and not let go. Once he's restrained, lightly brush his body with a wild variety of textures - feathers, ice cubes, silk, even forks and toys - use your imagination! Make him squirm and stimulate him just to the edge of orgasm then back off. Bring your breasts to his mouth, then wait for him to beg you for more. (This might be the time to re-negotiate that new car you've been wanting...) Give in only when you are ready. Relish being in control.
Or if you prefer to let go of responsibility, let your partner tie you up and ask them to worship your body for half an hour with the items you have laid out for them. Enjoy the full surrender of not having to attend to anyone else's needs for a while!
There's nothing like a good roll in the hay to get you both energized to play with the kids again, and leave you both feeling more connected.
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