I believe becoming a true and trusted Girlfriend is something you learn and earn over time. Maybe because I've been blessed with really great Girlfriends, I used to be under the false impression that anyone can be one. Wrong! That naive thinking has burned me more than once.
This article is not about revenge (well, maybe a little); instead, it's about the importance of keeping your good Girlfriends close, and dumping those who don't have your best interests at heart.
Oh, I should mention, I'm changing the names to protect the guilty.
I will never understand someone who actually befriends you and then turns on you. That's the lowest. I always imagine Suzie Sabotage saying "Oh I'm sorry…did my knife land in your back?" Uh, yeah. It landed right where you were aiming, Little Missy!
My Suzie Sabotage was a gal I worked with for years at my TV station where I was a nightly news anchor and investigative reporter for 12 years. I remember girls at work warning me that Suzie was out for herself, but I didn't listen (note to self: listen next time!). I also noticed she didn't have any other real Girlfriends (that is one of the biggest red flags!). Regardless, I went out of my way to hold her hand through some really rough times and did nothing but support her.
However, in a last ditch effort to keep her job, she had some closed-door meetings with the bosses claiming I didn't work as hard as she, she was a better journalist, and she even insinuated that I was having an affair with a co-worker. Oh, no, she didn’t! When the bosses told me she’d said that, I couldn't distance myself fast enough from Suzie, but I was honestly devastated. How could she say something like that when we were friends, and she knew it wasn't true? That's when I realized you can't teach or change a Sabotage Suzie.
But these WannaBes come with all sorts of names and issues:
Just Don't Get It Gidget
You know exactly who I’m talking about, Sista! No matter what their names, you need to dump them, and dump them fast. I can guarantee you, while I have experienced each and every one of these so-called “girlfriends” in the past, I can promise you that not a one of them is in my life today.
At this stage of my life and in this economy, I definitely need Girlfriends (2.0) who make me a better person. It’s a new day, Girlfriend! Quality (not quantity) counts. So, unite and surround yourself with only TRUE Girlfriends (with a capitol G) and dump the wannabes. You’re life will be richer because of it!