Yummy Mummy Amber in Washington asks:
Theresa answers:
Dear Amber,
Part marriage counselor, part nutritionist, that's me. This whole idea of living with other people doesn't really work. I think you should move out. No? Well| you only have one other option.
If explaining this issue to your spouse doesn't net any change, you need to change yourself. We really have no control over other people and if they aren't able to see how important this is to you, and to the example you set for your kids, then you have to set your own path. Try designating one shelf, cupboard or basket to isolate and identify those foods that you consider extras. This allows a visual representation of the truth. If the vegetable bin is empty and the extras basket is overflowing, everyone will get the picture. Try keeping this crap (sorry!) out of sight in a place where you and your kids don't normally go.
We do not buy this stuff| but do allow junk runs in our house because I know that absolutes and self deprivation have a way of back lashing. It is an identified| finite effort that is involved in going to the store when we just can't live without chips or cake or any other manner of treats. We are all aware that this is a treat and refuse to feel guilty about it but try to keep junk runs to a once a month maximum. (Guilt is the other side of this quandary that is equally as damaging.)
Notice that I am not saying exercise self control. I am saying set up a system and manage that system to help you know what you are doing and to make better choices.
Good Luck!
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