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23
2014

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Feb
20
2014

Why Is This Mom Hanging Out In Her Son's Room?

How To Make Conversations With Your Children Less Mortifying For Both Of You

Why Is This Mom Hanging Out In Her Son's Room?

I remember when my kids were small and I knew every aspect of their life, 24/7. I also remember wanting a break, needing time away to recharge and reconnect with myself.

Oh, irony. How you mess with me.

Because now, my kids are older and I’m fighting to stay connected with them.

Hi, my name is Sharon, and I’m the mom to a teen and a child who-thinks-he’s-a-teen. Both are now entering the era of oh-my-gawd-mom-you’re-so-embarrassing.

The challenge is keeping the conversations going with them now, so that when they do hit those teen years, I’m not struggling to have conversations with them then.

While I won’t say it’s one of my super-hero powerslike my ability to always pick the slowest checkout lineI’m actually not too bad with doing this whole talking to my kids thing. So here are a few helpful tips to help you keep the conversations going with your older children.

Pick A Common Ground

I used to be scared sh*tless when my parents would come into my room to talk, because the only time they ever entered my Sean Cassidy domain was when I was in deep trouble.

My older son is into DJing, my younger son loves sports. I use these interests as a way to ensure I have a secure spot to talk to them where they both feel comfortable. With my older son, I’ll go into his room and hang out on his bed while he mixes songs on his DJ system. Thus, when I do need to go into his room to talk about something important, it doesn’t freak him out because he’s used to me being there.

The same goes for my sport-loving boy. We have our best conversations driving to and from games and practices, so if there’s anything I need to discuss with him (or he with me), that’s where we do it.

Speaking Of Vans

I’ve found kids tend to open up more when a parent isn’t staring them directly in the eyeit becomes less interrogation-like. I assume this is why our family van has been the catalyst for so many interesting conversations. They’re in the back, I’m in the front, and that gives them the freedom to speak to me about things they might not have otherwise.

Go With The Flow

My kids are not ones to want to talk the moment they get home from school. Sure, they’ll drop a few tidbits, but for the most part they want to throw down their backpacks, grab a snack and chillax. Instead of peppering them with questions, I let them go about their business and we have the “What happened at school conversation” at dinner.

Be Matter-Of-Fact About It

Listen, talking to your kids about sex can be mortifying for both you and your offspring. The easiest way to approach any embarrassing talks is by being matter-of-fact about it.

My son is at an age where his doctor recommended he get the vaccine for the HPV virus. My husband and I decided to put it on hold for now, but wanted to discuss it with him without going into too much detail. The whole conversation was approached in a matter-of-fact way. “If you show an interest in a girl and it’s going to go beyond kissing, please come to me or your dad, because we need to talk to you about the HPV virus.”

The conversation went on for a few minutes, but in the end he wasn’t completely mortified that we had just talked about sex, because I didn’t make a big deal out of it.

Secret Codes

I’m very lucky in that both my boys are still affectionate (knock-on-wood) with me, but I know there will come a time when warm hugs turn into cold shoulders, which is why we’ve come up with a few of secret codes for “I Love You.” The codes are subtle enough that anyone else who sees it won’t know what we are doing, but my kids do.

Because no matter how old they are, your kids still always need to know they are loved.

Even when they respond with an eye-roll.

How do you keep conversations going with your kids?

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Feb
19
2014

Why Do You Use Triberr?

Can Someone Explain It To Me Because I Just Don't Get It

Why Do You Use Triberr?

I'm just going to put it out there....I don't get Triberr.

If you don't know what Triberr is, here's how it is described on the Triberr website:

"Triberr is a social network for bloggers. The idea is to find other bloggers who write about the same topics. These writers group up in a tribe. Whenever one blogger writes a post, the others read, comment and share it with their social networks. Triberr does all the heavy lifting of importing everyone's latest content, aggregrating it in an easy to ready news feed, and scheduiling sharing throught the day."

(For the record, the typos in that paragraph are not mine, I copied it directly from Triberr.)

In theory Triberr sounds good, right? After reading that paragraph (typos aside) I would sign up because it seems it would help me connect with like-minded bloggers and share content.

But today is February 19th and this morning I saw an automated tweet from someone who uses Tribber directing to a post about Valentine's Day.

*insert confused face here*

It's four days past Valentine's Day, yet a post about the big V-day is still being automatically being tweeted out. I've seen this countless times over the past year where date-specific posts are being automatically tweeted out past the date, including contests. I've seen automated Triberr tweets being sent out at 2, 3, 4, and 5:00 am when that person is clearly not online.

Everyone uses social media in their own way and this is not me putting down any one person's way of doing it. I'm genuinely curious and want to hear what people have to say. 

So, here goes....if you use Triberr, why? Has it helped you in your social media? Do you read every post before you schedule it to go out? Do you feel there's a downside to it?

 

If you're into social media you'll also want to make use of #YMC411.

Have too much tech in your life? Try implementing this rule at your house.