When I was pregnant the first time*, I had a little blog where I tracked my outfits (which I mostly use to reblog cute things on Tumblr now) because man, pregnancy "fashion" is kind of the worst. Well, not really the worst but maternity stores in Canada make it really hard for us to feel nice and look great while pregnant and otherwise feeling terrible about our growing bellies. I actually had to buy a number of pieces from my last mat leave in the states (Gap Maternity, COME TO CANADA, PLEASE!?) but overall, I think I was happy with how I looked. One thing I've noticed since then is how rocking some celebs have looked while pregnant...and one or two who have looked ridiculous. It's nice to know we're not the only women struggling with style and beauty while we have an ever expanding front section (and hips and back and boobs).
Kate Hudson recently had her second child (and first with current partner) and she looked amazing through this pregnancy. Simple clothes, no crazy patterns and lots of non-maternity stuff. I try and wear non-maternity jackets and coats too, and as long as it's not freezing, you can leave them open. Well done, chic and mom-appropriate!
Bey is the Queen of Glamour and that showed even while she was pregnant. It probably helps to be surrounded by stylists and a mom who's a fashion designer, but she just looked amazing while pregnant. I'm sure she had off days like the rest of us, but man oh man, I'd love to look as good as she does on her "off" days.
Wife of Matthew MacConaughey, Alves is a real stunner in what I highly doubt is maternity wear. One of the nicest parts of living in a day and age where cotton and lycra are woven through so many fabrics is being able to buy lovely jersey knits and other soft blends that allow us to look and feel great when pregnant.
The Not Great
Nicole "Snooki" Polizzi
You can take the girl out of the shore but can't take the shore out of the girl, apparently. For all Snooki's change, the one thing she didn't get rid of while pregnant was the over-the-top everything. The nails. The hair. The makeup. Yuck.
Erica Ehm (photo unavailable)
And I quote, "I used to be a celebrity and I looked like shit when I was pregnant." Doubtful (cause, have you seen Erica? She's a fox and a half!), but I'll take her word for it.
So, *spill it! What celebs do you think rocked their maternity period? Which celebs missed the mark?
For those of you who didn't get that comment: I am pregnant again! Baby number two, friends! xo
This one is a doozy. On November 20, a court awarded former The Price is Right model Brandi Cochran $777,000 in a suit that claims that she was discriminated against and then fired for becoming pregnant while working on the show. The whole thing is shocking and brutal but the pay out? Wowee. I think my jaw hit the floor when I first saw that number. And yes, you are reading that right. It's over $700,000. I feel like that's not enough punishment for the producers of the show.
Cochran got pregnant with twins in 2009 and in her claim she says that she was instantly berated and mocked by her colleagues and superiors on the show. She had been trying (unsuccessfully) for years to get pregnant, so I suspect she was pretty excited to find out that she was carrying twins. The suit claims that she was made fun of for gaining weight and she suffered from that humiliation while still at work, but that when she tried to return after her maternity leave in early 2010, she was told she wasn't needed. The producer's defence was that they were "happy" with the five models they currently had working.
I'm sorry, but I think that's possibly the laziest excuse I have ever heard. But Freemantle Media isn't done—they are appealing and believe they will be "vindicated" as they think that they've done absolutely NOTHING wrong. Except that the fired a woman for having children.
Brandi's lawyers are taking this all the way through a punitive phase and during the next phase of court, they will be asking for nearly $8 million in damages. I personally think that what SHOULD happen is that Freemantle be forced to donate a VERY large sum (say, $8 million dollars) of money to a women's group—maybe a legal aid clinic or a shelter—and think about how they treat the women that work on their show. Just because a woman works as a model doesn't mean she is an asset that can be discarded. She's still doing a job and still has every damned right to return to said job after leaving to deliver children. And California, much like many states in the US only has a 4-month maternity leave. FOUR MONTHS! She took four freaking months off to have TWINS then was ready (and physically looked amazing) to get back to work and was told "thanks, but no thanks?" What the hell is wrong with people?
I'm interested to see if they make it through the punitive phase (I do think the amount being asked for is high) and what will happen when Freemantle appeals. Sad day when in 2012, women are still being punished for having children.
So, spill it! What do you think of Brandi's case against her former employers?
News today is that Blossom and Big Bang Theory actress Mayim Bialik is divorcing her husband of nine years. The couple have two young sons together. The LA Times broke the story and asked first and foremost if Attachment Parenting had a part to play in the divorce. FIRST AND FOREMOST. Bialik, as you may remember, recently wrote an AP book and was snapped breastfeeding her toddler on the NYC subway system. It's always a shame when parents separate but to ask about their parenting choice (and it is joint, I've yet to meet any father/husband who solely goes along with what his wife asks him to do) and if that is the principal reason is just ridiculous.
Full disclosure here: Matt and I practice a form of AP that works for us. We co-slept until H was nine months full time and then transitioned him into crib. He still occasionally ends up in bed with us if he's not feeling well or something (what kid doesn't?). I also breastfed until very recently (21 months, and I would have gone longer but for the fact that we only nursed once a day and it was a trickle that made H aggressive). These things worked for us. And they worked well. We wore H whenever we could (either in a sling when younger or in a baby carrier) and I wish he would still be willing to ride back-pack, but he's not. I think attachment parenting has lots of very good things that can be incorporated into parenting without going overboard (like in any parenting situation). But we're pretty laid back and I think it's made us good parents and worked well for us and our lifestyle, and I'm damned well sure those are the same reasons Bialik chose to do AP for her family.
AP has gotten not-so-great media coverage in the last year—from the Time "Are you mother enough?" article to Bialik's subway breastfeeding, us AP parents are seen as over-the-top, granola-head hippies who are doing harm to our children by over infantalizing them and giving in to their desires. So, with Bialik's impending divorce, what better way to vilify the parenting style further than blaming it on divorce? Probably not much.
Yet again, we see the media telling us as women and mothers that we're not doing a good enough job. By the Times asking if AP caused her divorce, what they're saying is, "you drove your husband away with the family bed and all the breastfeeding, isn't that right?" and it's unfair. Other media outlets have picked up the story adding "attachment parent" to the headlines. No one would EVER think to put "cry-it-out mom" as an epithet for someone, so why AP?
I'm not sure what's so scary about attachment parenting—is it the idea that all family members play a role? Is it that often in AP families, the "it takes a village" mentality is not only used but utilized with shared work between mum and dad often breaking down modern traditional gender roles? Extended breastfeeding AKA not letting culture overly sexualize women's mammary glands against their intended purpose? I'm not sure what it is, but it's troublesome that Bialik found herself so passionate about something that worked for her family that she chose to write a book about it, and now people are taking that passion and trying to pass it off as the reason for her divorce.
No one would ever ask a father if his divorce was due to something he advocated for. Ever. I for one think even just thinking about asking a question as asinine as this isn't even remotely close to journalism. It's childishness.
So spill it! What do you think of Mayim Bialik's divorce? Was it unfair of the LA Times to ask about her parenting style?