Jen Warman: New Freakin' Mummy

Aug
30
2013

I Have A Name Crisis and I Need Your Help!

NAME THIS BABY AND YOU COULD WIN! (NO PRIZE ATTACHED) THIS IS FALSE ADVERTISING

For those of you who know me in real life, you know that I'm a name junkie. I always have been. Always will be. It's a sickness. 

I've already written a post about my name obsession, so I'll try not repeat myself.

This post, however, is to ask for your help. I need your advice! I want to hear your thoughts and I want your input...

Here is my dilemma:

Ever since we were pregnant with Cole, we have loved the name Lily (Lillian) — and this would have been Cole's name (most likely) if he were a girl. So clearly, we would like to use this name if we happen to have a girl this time around..,(which we are. Because I'm psychic.)

Except the problem for ME is that the name Lily it's SO popular!!! (My husband doesn't seem to care, but I do...)

Five women I know who are expecting are planning to use the same name. As someone who bares one of the most common name of the 80s, I always wanted something more unique for my own kids. So I can't decide if my love for the name outweighs the popularity issue. We have two other solid names we like that are less popular: Vivien and Maeve. I really do love these names as well, but Lily has been our favourite since I was pregnant with our son so it's hard to shove it out of first place.

I asked my closest girlfriends for their thoughts and opinions and they offered up some solid advice, on both sides of the coin:

"To me, it doesn't matter how many Lillian's are out there because yours will be unique and stand out. Just think, you're one of 3 Jens in my life and I've never thought of you as having the same name...Pick a name you love, because she will feel that her whole life..." 

"In my opinion, there is no way I would ever name my kid something that I knew would be popular — I couldn't handle that. While Lily is a beautiful name, if five other people you know want that name — that is nutso!" 

So this is where I need your help and words of wisdom. I want to hear your naming stories. Any regrets? What helped you make your choice?

And my overarching question: Will the popularity of the name Lily ruin it for me in the upcoming years?

Thank you in advance for weighing in!

PS. I am very aware that this is NOT A REAL PROBLEM. I am very aware that this is somewhat RIDICULOUS. Phrases like "first world problems" come to mind — but that saying also irritates me, and I don't know why...Perhaps because it's overused and TOO POPULAR!!! ;)