Because I noticed something a few days ago. You also yell and scream when you’re upset. I’m not sure when it started, but I do know who you got it from.
Me.
I’m sorry.
On those days when I need more sleep and more caffeine and more hands, I yell. Those days usually end in y.
I was recently sent some free Playtex products to test with my two daughters and while testing, a realization hit me. They both interacted so differently to the same products. Each one using it in a way that is unique to herself. My precious big girl and my darling baby, each showing me a glimpse into their own unique and precious personalities...
My daughters are like all siblings the world over. They’re so different yet so very similar.
I've been through child birth so naturally, I'm fearless.
Erhm, maybe not so much.
I'm still a little scared of some things. And by little, I mean a lot. And by some, I mean many.
I thought being a mother would mean that I'd be able to handle anything and any personal fears would fly out the window. After all, mothers handle everything. They know all the answers. They never show fear.
You know how everyone sings in the shower or in the car? Well, make that everyone minus one.
I don’t sing. Ever.
And it’s in everyone’s best interest.
Because my voice is just that bad. I’m tone deaf and even I don’t want to hear myself mangling beautiful lyrics. That would be a horrible travesty and I prefer not to be responsible for such travesties if I can help it.
Thirty years ago, I was just a young child playing on our front lawn. It was a warm summer day and the sprinkler was on. My sister and I were running back and forth in the water, having fun splashing around.
Some men happened to pull up to the stop sign beside our corner house. They rolled down their windows and gave me my first taste of what some of the world thought of me.
My oldest daughter started preschool and let me tell you, it’s hard. It’s so unbelievably hard, people. I don’t know how you parents with school aged children do it. I’m not sure I’m cut out for this.
I’m talking about lunches.
They have become the bane of my existence. I am constantly worrying, fretting, thinking about lunches.
My child eats nothing. Nothing.
Nothing I buy and especially nothing I make.
Every day she comes home with an untouched lunch bag.
There is a difference between living life and living the life.
A difference that makes all the difference between finding bliss….
Or not.
The difference is in how you approach the little things. The everyday occurrences. The small moments that are often mistakenly overlooked and taken for granted.
There are days when my daughter will fight me every step of the way when it comes to naptime. On these days, the only way to convince her to lie down is if I promise to nap with her.
Last night, I was staring at my daughter as she slept. Because that’s what mothers do. We stare at our children while they sleep. And our hearts break into a million tiny pieces with the weight of our love for them. It’s both scary and exhilarating to know that I can love so much.
Sometimes I find myself longing for a break from this responsible parenting thing.
I miss being young.
I miss those little things that I took for granted when it was okay to take them for granted. It was okay because it was all I knew and it wasn’t all that exceptional.
But now I know better and every once in a while, I find myself missing those not-so-special memories.
Wait, scratch that. I feel like I’m not doing it any justice.
This parenting thing is insane.
Ah, much better.
Parenting isn’t for the weak. But luckily for me, I have a helper. She might only be three but she’s been my constant ally in this parenting thing. Albeit when she’s not being parented herself.
But when people look at me, the last place they think of is Canada.
Whether I’m travelling across the country, shopping across the border, or even just going for a walk in my own neighbourhood, I’m inevitably asked the question.
“Where are you from?”
The same country as you if you really must know.
But I know what they mean.
I want to tell them that I’m just like you, only different.
My daughter is always getting up to something that she shouldn’t be getting up to.
And the best part? She tells me.
She doesn’t exactly come out and say, “Mom, I’m up to something so horribly bad. You’re going to freak out in about two minutes when you see the mess/disaster/danger I’m partaking in.”