Intention. Such a little word with such big meaning.
I came to the startling realization this week that my sex life has always been and always will be ruled by my intentions (a bit of a Sexologist’s “Eureka” moment actually).
For the last six years, my life’s intention was to have a child. This intention was so strong that, at times, I was blinded to all else.
You've probably heard that our brain is our biggest sex organ. So an easy way to get in themood when you're busy running around all day and have zero energy is...to create positive sexual anticipation.
Sexual desire refers to the thoughts you have about sex before, during, and after. And it can have a profound impact on the quality (and quantity) of your sexual experience.
It's assumed that it's always a woman whose sex drive is lagging. But both men and women are susceptible to and suffer from periods of low sex drive.
So what can you do if your guy's sex drive has taken a nose dive; you know he's not cheating, so what could it be?
Contrary to popular belief, men aren't always the horn-dogs they're made out to be. In fact, many times just the opposite is true and it's the female in the relationship who is has a higher sex drive.
In the 1950s and 60s, Masters and Johnson studied sexual function in 700 people who agreed to have their sex or self-pleasure watched under close scientific scrutiny.
The researchers measured bodily responses and studied the vagina during orgasm by placing a camera in a clear plastic penis.
One important contribution was defining the four-stage model of sexual response, which they described as the human sexual response cycle defined as:
I was volunteering at my son’s playschool when his teacher announced that the kids were going to start their Mother’s Day gift. Under my breath I said, “Do you know what I really want for Mother’s Day?”
The other mommy volunteer must have heard me because she chimed in with, “Time to myself!”
Smiling at her I got into the Mother’s Day fantasy, “A full day at the spa, with a bunch of people waiting on my every need.”
