Week #19 of my Six Month Sex Challenge
The G-spot
I’ve done countless interviews and written extensively about it. Every single time I’ve given a seminar someone will inevitably raise their hand and ask about it. For the life of me, I can’t figure why people are so fixated on finding the G-Spot.
Perhaps the fascination is that it is so elusive. That in our instant gratification society it’s not something that can be found instantaneously. That even though I have met hundreds (maybe thousands) of women who report having a g-spot orgasm, scientists are still debating whether it really exists.
So here’s the condensed low down about the G-spot. First and most important: Not all women can have a G-spot orgasm; this is due to your biology not whether you are amazing in bed.
If you go looking for the G-spot, chances are you’ll never find it. Huh? If you’re the couple who says to each other over dinner, “Tonight we are going to find the G-spot!” March into the bedroom and take a look around, chances are with the pressure and tension you won’t find it.
While it’s true that you need to understand how your body works and the sensations that go along with having a G-spot orgasm before it can happen, every woman I’ve spoken to who’s found her G-spot found it by accident. Huh? That is to say, she was so juiced up and into the sex that her body was able to naturally (and organically) release into that pleasure.
Do G-spot Vibrators Really Work?
A cautionary yes. Do your best to find your G-spot with fingers or intercourse positions (fun!); it will take a little longer to figure out but ultimately you will have better control over your G-spot orgasm. Because understanding the G-spot orgasm is mostly about training your body about feeling comfortable with what is happening to it.
Vibrators brings blood to the surface which makes that area more sensitive. So if you find your g-spot using a G-spot vibrator, your body will be used to the intense feelings and it will be more difficult to achieve the same results with fingers, penis, or dildo.
Using a vibrator is a last resort; or something to speed along the process once you’ve figured it all out.
Did a Vibrator Help Me Find My G-spot?
Well, given that my sex life is a rushed, “quick the kids are sleeping” 15 to 20 minutes, as well I’m still breast feeding which makes intercourse (for me) uncomfortable. No, not even close. However, this little beauty will be waiting in the wings for when intercourse is back to normal.
Other Six Month Sex Challenge Blogs
No Sex This Week...And it's My Husband's Fault
Sex in the Shower!
New Mom = No Sex Drive
(My Six Month Sex Challenge blog series was originally published in 2009. I'm happy to report now that my kids are 3 and 5 years old, my sex life is back on track!)
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