Andrea Loewen Nair: Connect-Four Parenting

May
16
2016

Our Close-to-Home Trip to Great Wolf Lodge: Just What Your Family May Need

Maintain balance in your kids’ busy lives by taking a “close-by-cation”

Our Close-to-Home Trip to Great Wolf Lodge: Just What Your Family May Need

Last year, our family went on a big vacation to the Caribbean, which was really an amazing experience. This year, with the drop in the value of the Canadian dollar (compared to the American dollar), we decided to forego a big out-of-country trip and explore the area around us. So we booked a trip to Great Wolf Lodge Niagara.

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May
16
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: V is for Voice.

Try this simple trick to getting children to lower their voices!

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Andrea Nair here – welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series. This video is for the letter V, and V is for Voice.

In this short video I share my quick, yet very effective trick for getting children to lower their voices. This works for a classroom full of loud students and a house full of equally loud little people!

Give it a try!

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May
10
2016

Connecting with a Child Who is Very Different Than You

Empathy, validation, and finding common ground are some of the ways to connect.

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Parents often have preconceived assumptions about what parenting will be like. These notions might be quickly dashed when we realize that sleep deprivation is far more debilitating than anything we had imagined or that a toddler really can have a tantrum that lasts for 45 minutes straight.

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May
09
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: U is for Understand

"You matter" are two very powerful words to convey to our children

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Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series! The letter I’m focusing on today is the U, and U is for Understand.

Understand what? Understand whom?

Actually, it’s a little bit of both. Understand means telling our upset children that we see their upset, we see something might have happen to trigger their reaction, and we see they are a good person.

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May
03
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: T is for Taking Time for Teaching

Want increased toddler cooperation? Teach them in this simple way...

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Hi – Andrea Nair here! Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series. This video is about the letter T, and T is for Taking Time for Teaching.

When toddlers receive clear, short, sequential instructions, they are much more likely to do what you ask of them. This means breaking your request into small “bite sized” pieces of information that are provided in a logical, sequential order.

Please watch this video to learn more:

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Apr
20
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: S is for Soothing Techniques

Need some toddler calming tricks? Try these!

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Thank you for watching the next video in our A to Z of Taming Tantrums series. Today’s letter is S and S is for Soothing Techniques.

These techniques are for when your child is back arching, raging mad and needs help to start the calming process. As I mentioned in the video, some children do not want to be touched, so please only touch them if they are okay with that (assuming safety first).

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Apr
20
2016

10 Phrases That Are Helping Me Be a Better Parent

Need some go-to calming phrases? Try these.

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I walked up my stairwell the other day, past the pictures of my children when they were one and three, and suddenly froze. I trot past those pictures many times a day, but for some reason I stopped this time and stared deeply into their young eyes.

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Apr
20
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: R is for Routines

Use routines to reduce power struggles and increase cooperation!

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Hello! Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series. This video is about the letter R, and R is for Routines.

“The unknown” is one of the most fearful things for people—it’s even more stressful than taking a driver’s test or public speaking!

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Apr
10
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: Q is for Quiet

Quiet time does prevent tantrums! Here's how...

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Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series. This episode is about the letter Q and Q is for Quiet. I don’t mean that need we need to try to get our children to be quieter, but rather to use the tantrum prevention strategy of giving our young ones lots of quiet time.

Some children who are introverts might have a large need to be in a quiet environment, and others might not need as much. I certainly notice when I haven’t had enough quiet time and almost feel like exploding—children go through the same thing.

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Apr
06
2016

8 Ways to Value the Person Beyond the Parent

Try these tips to not lose "you" in parenting

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Parenting is a full-time, all-consuming job. Even when we leave for work in the morning or spend a few hours away from our children to run errands on the weekend, we don’t take off our “parent” hat. We are always Mom or Dad. And yet it is important that we value the person beyond the title of Mom or Dad.

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Apr
03
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: P is for Positive Discipline

Do you know what "positive discipline" means? I explain that here...

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Hi, it’s Andrea Nair—thank you for staying tuned to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums series! We’re up to the letter P already, and P is for Positive Discipline.

One of the most common questions I receive from parents is: How do I discipline my child? I don’t want to spank, use threats, or time-outs so what can I do?

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Mar
27
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: O is for "Oh S@#%" Parenting Moments

This episode covers an important topic: what to do when our child's tantrums bring out the worst in us.

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Welcome back to our A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series. This week’s letter is the letter O, and O is for Oh $A#!. Firstly, let me apologize for using the s--- word, and please be forewarned that I say the word in the video so don’t watch this one around your children.

When our team talked about the best O word, we decided that the feeling when we respond to our child’s tantrums in a way we really regret was important to discuss. We agreed that many parents would connect with calling it an Oh s--- parenting moment and decided to roll with it.

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Mar
11
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: N is for Natural Consequences

Assuming safety first, let natural consequences be the teacher

Natural Consequences

Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums series. Today’s video is about the letter N, and N is for Natural Consequences.

What do I mean by that? Natural consequences are the things that happen as a result of our decisions and actions. For example, it’s the feeling of being cold when you decide to skip the mitts, and having an upset playmate when you take his truck.

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Mar
06
2016

Momcation: My Parenting Sanity Saver

Here's what happened on my first plane trip after kids:

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Laura Markham, PhD recently wrote about “radical self care” on her Facebook page. I love the word radical as is applies to taking care of ourselves as parents. I am certainly a radically different parent when I am rested and my buckets are full than when I’m not.

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Mar
04
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: M is for Mantras

A handful of helpful mantras or phrases can really help reduce tantrums.

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Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series.  This episode is about the letter M, and M is for Mantras.

Mantras are go-to phrases we can use when common parenting challenges happen. When we have a handful of these mantras to rely on, our bodies can go into autopilot, using these during rough patches.

In this video, I share my favourite phrases to help prevent and reduce tantrums:

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Feb
22
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: L is for Letting Go

Perfection is just one of the things that can hold us back. Watch the video to learn more...

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Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums series! This week I cover the letter L, and L is for Letting Go

What does letting go mean to you? When I think of those two powerful words, I think about giving up control that everything has to be exactly the way I want it. I learned early in my parenting journey that there are many things we cannot control when it comes to raising a young person. Accepting this is part of the process of helping our children and ourselves through emotional upset.

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Feb
16
2016

I Think About Death Much More Since Becoming a Mom

One day I heard something that made me suddenly aware of how much I think about death.

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Growing up in a small, isolated mining community far away from large cities in my childhood and teenaged years, I don’t recall really being aware of death. In our isolation, likely also do to the absence of the Internet at that time, we didn’t hear that much about death. Sure, if you watched one of the two channels on TV at news time, you’d hear about wars off in distant lands and the occasional murder in the rough areas of the capital city.

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Feb
15
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: K is for OK!

Did you know that this simple little word can be counterproductive for kids?

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Hi! Andrea Nair here. Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums. This episode is about the letter K, and K is for OK.

You might be wondering why OK is linked to tantrums. Our very well meaning hope to check in for our child's understanding by adding an "OK?" at the end of our instructions actually turns that direction into a yes/ no question. At this point, your child could shout, "NO!" which is a fair response to your request.

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Feb
07
2016

A to Z of Taming Tantrums: J is for Jobs

Routine "jobs" (chores) help increase cooperation. Here's how...

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Hi! Welcome back to the A to Z of Taming Tantrums video series. This week I'll be discussing the letter J, and J is for Jobs.

"Jobs" is the word I like to use instead of "chores." These are the daily tasks that everyone in the household needs to do in order to keep things running smoothly. Getting our young children used to, and involved in daily jobs will help making cleaning up become a regular part of life.

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Feb
04
2016

Why Your 40s CAN be Happy, Worthwhile Years

A recent report says 40-59 year-olds are the most unhappy and anxious. Let's change that.

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A report by the Office For National Statistics in the UK released this week indicates that people aged 40 to 59 have the lowest levels of life satisfaction and happiness, and the highest levels of anxiety. The report analyzed data provided by 300,000 British citizens raging in age from 16 to over 90 (their income, sex, and race data was not provided).

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