I was volunteering at my son’s playschool when his teacher announced that the kids were going to start their Mother’s Day gift. Under my breath I said, “Do you know what I really want for Mother’s Day?”
The other mommy volunteer must have heard me because she chimed in with, “Time to myself!”
Smiling at her I got into the Mother’s Day fantasy, “A full day at the spa, with a bunch of people waiting on my every need.”
I believe it was the media frenzy surrounding the Tiger Woods’ scandal that made sex addiction ‘real’ to people. Ironically the poster boy for sex addiction, Tiger Woods, doesn’t have a sex addiction: massive ego and poor judgment certainly; a sex addiction, certainly not.
Picture this: you're having a really (REALLY) stressful day. Work is crazy, kids are crazy, making supper is crazy, partner is crazy. You get the picture.
What can you do to calm down? Well, in the Victorian Era (the late 1800s), women would go to their doctor and get a 'genital massage.' Yes, you read that right. The doctors would get these women off to a point of orgasm to help with their hysteria.
It was believed the sexual release would treat emotional or mental problems.
It's during the challenging part of our relationship that our will, want and desire to stay emotionally connected is put to the test.
Some of us want to go into a cave or shut down emotionally. Not to say zoning out in front of the TV or Facebook isn't warranted, yet our partnership still needs TLC.
A friend of mine came home one day and found her (now ex) husband in a, ahem, compromising situation. (He was masturbating for anyone who didn’t get my attempt at being subtle.)
Ask anyone to name a sex book and The Kama Sutra will inevitably be in their top five. The irony of the original Kama Sutra is if you've read it cover to cover, which I have, it's an incredibly dull and tedious book.
“So when are you two going on your next date night?” My mother innocently asked.
My two toddlers were screaming in the background and I could hardly hear what she was saying so I responded with a distracted, “You’re right Mom. It’s been months since we’ve had a night out. STOP HITTING YOUR BROTHER RIGHT NOW! Soon Mom, really soon.”
For example, anything shaped like a penis—like asparagus—was thought to be sexually stimulating to both sexes (why are we not surprised?). Remember not to giggle the next time you delicately bite the head off of an asparagus spear.
While dating, you probably hung on his every word while he talked about those things that interested him. It was part of your charm and why he found you so darn attractive.
Bringing that when-you-first-met-magic back to life can be as simple as taking an interest in him. (It's sad that we lost interest in the first place, but that's neither here nor there.)
A lack of sexual desire--the thoughts you have around sex--is the number one reason couples in North America stop having sex.
What that means for you is: if you have negative thoughts towards sex before, during and after the sexual encounter, it will profoundly dampen your desire to have sex.
I call it the 'Oh crap' phenomenon—“Oh crap, do I have to have sex tonight” or “Oh crap, you want sex now! Can’t you see I’m exhausted?”
How a person expresses their love is unique...and sometimes confusing to the receiving partner.
For example, you may feel a person shows their love by the quality of gifts they give to you, while your partner expresses their love by doing nice things for you--ultimately this leads to you feeling gypped and your partner feels unappreciated.
There's a reason why every sex expert under the sun says, "Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay."
In our hectic, stress-induced world, women get wrapped up in her never ending to-do lists and become disconnected from her body.
Foreplay helps couples to reconnect with each other, their bodies and gets them juiced-up and into the lovemaking experience. Imagine, just ten minutes can mean the difference between mediocre sex and fantastic sex.